I live a fake life on social media so what? It's not my real life so why do I have to act like that's my real life? Please just let me do whatever I want to do as long as it gives me joy. That's the mind of most people as regards their social lives. Many people see the internet as a place where they get the opportunity to live the life they've always wanted.
I know that sometimes it's just hard to accept the truth of who we truly are but then no matter what, it's always going to be Who we are and trying to be deceptive about it won't change anything, infact most times it will worsen it. Before reading further, I'm not sure what your thoughts are on this but I want you to keep an open mind even as you read through this. There might be some things that may not be as you expect but be at least truthful to yourself 🥰.
While growing up, I saw a lot of things my age group were doing that I always envied them for but because I knew the truth about who they really are, I was able to advise myself not to engage in what they do. At some point I felt like I was missing out a lot on what my peers were doing but I knew that all of those things were just temporary pleasures and it was not easy abstaining from most of them.
I had days when I even get entangled in some of the things that I promised myself never to do and that was when I started surrounding myself with people that can talk to me and I can listen to them. I hated being corrected though but I still wanted those people around me so they can always put me in check. Doing that made a lot of things easier for me and it made some people think that I was doing so well for myself because I was never exposed to somethings that they were exposed to.
Part of the things I controlled was my use of the internet. I had access to it at some early stage of my life but then I still choose to get more understanding first so I don't get easily drown in it. Now I don't know too much about social media but I think I know just enough and that's fine for me. I'm someone that believes that the social media should be a place where we can and should live the most truthful life because there even if people judge you it won't hurt too much compared to when those around you do.
All my life, I've always tried as much as I can for people to know me for me both in real life and online. I want a situation when what I'm known for online is almost exactly as what I'm known for offline. One thing that matters to me most is my name. Just like it was on Facebook, the easiest way to fine your friends is if they have the same name as you know them online. If everyone were to just stick with the name people know them for offline, it would have been so easy finding your friends online.
But today, we see that people no longer love their own names anymore, they find delight in bearing a name that belong to someone else. For me I'd say this is more than enough to be judgemental but then like we will always say, people have reasons for doing the things they do so it is wrong to judge them. But then, it's not out of place to point out the wrong to them and help them try to change. They may see it as being judgemental but then it's just you trying to correct them.
With all of these in mind, it is totally unsafe for people to be judged by their life on social media because most of us are not genuine. Building a different you on social media only shows that you are trying to be deceptive and that is not a good thing at all. If only we all can keep a true profile of ourselves everywhere, life will be a lot easier for us all but that sounds almost impossible but I'd encourage anyone who gets to read this to be proud of who they are anywhere and anytime.
That's all for my response to the hiveghana's weekly topic on "SOCIAL MEDIA".