One sick truth that we can never erase is that love will surely die when some essential needs are not met in a relationship or marriage. Men from generations have been placed with the responsibility of being the head and provider; the moment that role switches, there's a problem.
Unlike our forefathers, who found love easily, all they had to do was go to the farm every day, make sure they could feed their families. Wealth then was characterized by how large and big your farm was, how the head could feed his family from all his hard work, and there's peace. Those days you found simple acts like gossiping with your spouse outside the hut at night as love, your spouse following you to the river to fetch water, and your spouse placing you as the first wife and showing you more attention were considered love. And if he has little cowries to buy you beads and wrappers, then you are considered the favorite of your spouse.
But this doesn't apply so much in today's world, where people consider money superior to love, people do contract marriage just to enjoy the person's wealth before divorce, or get divorced just to take the shares of the man's wealth and leave.
While some people take love to such an extent that they become irrational in their decisions, they become delusional, manipulated, deceived, toxic, and obsessed, and they still call it love. They are so driven by this so-called love that they become blind to reality.
In my opinion, both love and money are very vital and necessary. You can't live by “love” alone and neglect your financial state; you can't be so busy making money and forget the emotional connection with someone. It could be friends you love being around; it could be your wife, lover, kids, family, or relatives.
For me, there should be some level of balance in both. You can never see a very rational man who knows what he's doing marrying his partner out of love and neglecting the financial aspect; it would only endanger that love. Imagine you as the man, the head of your household, the protector, and the provider who can't afford to feed your household because you're not financially stable. That is endangering your whole household; it could provoke your partner to take your responsibility, which doesn't end well in most cases, or even worse, make your partner take the wrong path just so there can be food, health insurance, and some level of protection in the whole household.
Then for all those ladies online who paint getting married for just the enjoyment of money is the way are just deceiving other people to join them in their state of miseries, a woman who picks money over her emotional connection or bond with her partner would likely be harming herself, women take their emotions seriously, and God himself made women the emotional ones. Imagine coming home to a empty house every day, your partner doesn't show you affection, doesn't even try to learn or connect with you emotionally, he clearly shows you that he doesn't love you, has no time for you, there's no level of emotional security, but if it's money he gives you money has you want. Such a woman might just lie to herself, put herself in that self-denial state of not wanting love but just the money, but as time goes on, she would look for that love and when there's none, that could be a big issue. Whoever said *money isn't everything—he wasn't lying—money can buy that artificial happiness, artificial love that would put you in the spotlight. But once that money leaves, that love and happiness leave too, and that's a gold digger's lifestyle.
In some cases, women like this can fall for the smallest amount of affection outside their marriage; even if he's nothing compared to her husband, she would fall because he connects to her emotions, and her husband, who doesn't have that room to show them affection, becomes a secondary source for just income.
So in a nutshell, love and money are very important, but there should be a certain level of balance between them, especially in marriage. Just because you're in love doesn't mean that you can spend all your finances on your wedding day all in the name of love and go back home to drink garri. That's not right.
And this is what this generation should learn: to balance both love and money, they should know the importance of both and place them where they should be.
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