Huhm, this particular topic is a huge one. Talking of forgiveness, while growing up I see it as something very simple, just forgive and forget, just let it go. It does look simple, well maybe on the surface. But life will always do it's thing, and at times it teaches you that certain things are never as easy as we thought they are.
About four to five years ago, one of my friends hurt me in a way that pained me. I wnent through something at a time and had to leave school, so by the time I got better, I was trying to out in back to school, meanwhile my mates that we gained admission together back then were already a year ahead of me, so he happens or be one of them. Ad he's a very close pal, I went to school that day and I had informed him that he would help with certain things as school stress is usually much and I don't have the strength for it.
To cut the king story short, we met inside the school that day, he came along with another person I did not know. Immediately he told rhebr person they came together my name, the person greeted me and began to talk about the various things I've had to go through while asking me how I'm feeling now, and various stuffs. My friend new a lot about what I went through, but I see no reason why he will have to start discussing it with somebody else, a total stranger at that. I couldn't hide how angry I was and my friend noticed it.
Thinking about it now, he might not really see it as something that's of a big deal, but it is to me, and I told him how hurting and painful what he did was. I really wanted to forgive him, he's a good friend but it was hard. I find it hard to, reason being that a lot of people left and some betrayed me during those trying moments too, now having to see that even my story, experience and health challenges has become a topic for discussion as well.
We departed that day, I finally got to resume back to school and we moved on. I had kept my distance form him, and I'm still very angry at him as well. But he on the other hand keeps doing what he does as if nothing happened. I saw him each and everyday and feel somehow even giving him an handshake. It was so heavy on my heart and he seems to not notice or concerned. That was when I thought it best to just let go, the anger is only weighing me down. I need to free myself, I should forgive and be very careful so I wouldn't trust as much as I did before.
So, I forgave him and let it slide. But like I said earlier, the distance was there, yes I'm just trying to protect myself, my heart. It really takes maturity to let go and to forgive. When you hold on to the hurt and pain done to you nt someone, you just keep weighing yourself down.
So it's good to forgive. Forgiveness helps to heal while also giving you breathing space.
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