Those days, there was no technological advancement like we are enjoying today but marriage was still beautiful. Beautiful in the sense that, both parties understood what they were in for and most people married for love and not for other reasons. I can’t say same for our current generation.
The rate of divorce in our world today is quite alarming if you ask me. Day in, day out we hear of this and that person getting a divorce and it has even become a normal thing. Even your favorite celebrities from four years ago have probably gotten a divorce now.
Our generation has been made to think that marriage is a bed of roses but let no one lie to you. Marriage is a whole world on its own. I haven’t been really active on social media for some months now but I happen to come across some news a few days go. So, there’s this musician in Ghana called Medical who’s married to this lady Fella Makafui who’s an actress, entrepreneur and what have you. I don’t really follow their lives but I believe they have been married for some years now and they even have a kid. Long story short, they’re getting a divorce.
That’s not even the funny part. This is where it gets interesting. So, the husband, Medical has resorted to posting their personal business about their divorce on Snapchat. Talking about how the lady abuses him at home and she and her sister even tried to sack him from his own house. He even said they brought police men to his own house to arrest him for nothing.
Later that night, the lady came out with a statement that she prefers to keep their divorce issue private and so we the general public should respect that decision of theirs. The first question I asked myself was, was there a need to bring your marriage business to social media in the first place? I know celebrities who have families yet the keep everything of theirs private. You don’t always need to come online to oppress others. No one cares about what you do with your life but be sure to have everyone talking when things go sideways for you.
Our generation has taken marriage to be a joke. Most people go into marriage for money, social status or even just to oppress others. So many factors come into play when we talk about marriage, it’s more like how you need more than one ingredient to prepare a whole meal. It’s no more ‘till death do us part’ anymore, it’s ‘till when I get bored or fed up’ or ‘till when we divorce’.
Why go into marriage in the first place if you know you can’t hold on to your vows. Some people can be selfish to the extent that they don’t even consider the feelings of the other party or even the kids. They go about doing whatever they want and when things go bad, they play the victim.
I think that the whole issue of marriage in this era has to be revisited all over again. We have lost our priorities and that’s how come most people end up divorcing after a year or two of being married. Let’s stop being delusional and live in the real world. Marriage if from God, if you’re not ready for it don’t go into it!
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