Greetings!
Looking up to people as models is not something bad at all. In fact, it's a welcome idea to me to have a role model or someone we look up to and this is because of us tapping from their wealth of experiences.
Aside from this, having a role model would always help us to know much better about life. Although, I'm not saying that people without a role model would not go far in life, in fact, their journey may be faster compared to those with role models who might have been confused by the actions of their role models.
So, my last statement in the last paragraph would make me share my personal experience with someone I love and revered so much but later disappointed me with his careless speech and action.
So, before i proceed, i would like to let's know that, it's good to have a role model and even follow them with all our heart, but one thing is that we should not follow anyone blindly all in the name of them being our role model as this can spell doom for such a mentee at the end.
Having said this, I would like to talk about the statement or speech of my role model that disappointed him.
Disclaimer; This might sound too religious for some of my readers, please if it's so, I'm so sorry as I'm here to hurt anyone.
Some time ago, when I was about to get married, I took my fiancee to a man who happened to be my dad's friend and also a respected man of God whom I respected so much. While I introduced my fiancee to this man, he welcomed us to his house and even entertained us which I so much appreciated.
However, after he had welcomed us and even entertained us, he began to counsel us and in his words or let me say speeches, he asked both of us if we had known ourselves (known ourselves here means if we had have s€x together) and our response was a capital NO to his question and immediately we said known, he felt disappointed and was like it's very bad of us not to have done so as this would help us to know our sexual strengths and weaknesses.
But I told him that that's not what the scripture said. I told him that the scripture says we should leave the bed undefiled, but this revered man would not even listen to what the scripture says as he was adamant on us knowing ourselves before getting married saying it's not a sin.
So, after I realized that he would not back down from his argument about us knowing ourselves, we feigned our agreement to his advice and left, but since then, I have lost interest in him and also stopped looking up to him as my mentor.
Thanks for reading.
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