DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD SOMETIMES CHECK YOUR PARTNER'S PHONE? OR YOU JUST DON'T THINK IT'S RIGHT.
If there is a problem in a marriage, because there bound to be plenty of them, since we are from different backgrounds, have our ways of reasoning, ways of handling conflits, and have our different cultures in some cases. I think the best way to handle problems is by having a quality conversation, asking questions, expressing feelings and having a better understanding of ourselves. Welcome to my blog, I am .
Marriage is built on trust, mutual respect and understanding. Coming together as husband and wife means that the both of us has agreed to trust and respect each others boundaries. I am committed to my husband likewise him. He deserves his personal space likewise i. I believe that his phone should have some vital informations, maybe work related or some discussions that have nothing to do with infidelity.
IS IT RIGHT TO CHECK MY HUSBANDS PHONE WITHOUT HIS KNOWLEDGE?
The answer is a capital NO. I will give reason for that. His phone is his privacy, so going through his phone without his consent is a total violation of privacy. I can't do that. My husband hides nothing from me, likewise I, and we are good. I know his phone password he knows mine, so why should I overstep my boundaries? When I see couples that argue over that, I call it insecurity and lack of trust.
In the case of the ten years marriage, instead of them allowing suspicion to take over their marriage, I think they should have an open conversation, talk things through. This particular situation would have been avoided if both of them have respected their bounds, and if they stay true to the promise ( vow) they made to each other on their wedding day. One thing I kept wondering in marriage is why people make promises they cannot keep, they say I do, when they do not. 😀😀
Respecting your spouse privacy, shows maturity and trust. What else could have led to the brake up in marriage, if not infidelity, perhaps one of them have seen that his or her partner is having an extra marital affairs. If everyone should stay through to their vows, this would have been avoided.
On the other hand, when they say, marriage is for better for worse, I think it also referred to when the innocent mate comes in terms with situation that can break up his or her marriage, and decided to keep to the marriage vows by forgiving. As long as they reached an understanding. I truly believe that a successful marriage is a union of two good forgivers, sofar the guilty one is not
taking the innocent one for granted.
Therefore if after checking the phone, and you see something that infuriat you, you can still talk things over with your spouse, and if there is basis for forgiveness, then you forgive. But as for me there's no reason whatsoever for me to check my husband's phone without his permission. What do you think? With the little time left, you can still share you view about it. And I will be willing to know your take on this matter. Thanks.