So we are already 8days into 2026, and already it feels like I will say I'm already tired, cos it started with some personal dramas which I really don't like.
2024 I got separated, not that it's something I am proud of or something nah, it's just something that needed to happen for my peace of mind and for every body around me. In spite of being emotional and physically traumatised then, I tried to get back on my feet and move on. At least I know certain things are way past our control, certainly I moved on , I am over that chapter.
But it seems as if my ex partner has some issues moving on and has vowed to make life tiring for himself not me, this is like another thing that I get to battle with, but I have told myself, I am not giving anything heed that's not worth my energy this new year.
Around the end of last year , I got a text from my network provider that a SIM swap or upgrade has been done on my line, and I certainly know I am not the one that did that. So I immediately had to go to my WhatsApp and I changed the number and also from all my social media accounts, I already knew who the culprit was.
So this is the thing, my ex husband was the one who helped me in registering my Sims cards, like here in my place whatever Nin is attached to a line, already has the name and everything of the NiN owner. In my case , even though I paid for the SIM, it still has his name cos he registered it.
Now him being a petty person did this thing to hurt me, like I said earlier, I'm not giving things that don't worth my energy this year at all. It is something I already said to myself and I'm standing by it.
After a few days the sim with me stopped working because obviously he has it with him , so thankfully I was able to change number, then this new year , I saw my number has uploaded a status on WhatsApp saying “ I'm back Online” lol, see it's funny and also not funny, because I confronted my ex about it and he said he doesn't know anything about it. All lies , I knew that.
But I didn't want it to be an issue and so I became the bigger person. I changed my phone number. I registered a new line and did changes on every important place that I need to . Tho my bank hasn't been changed but I'm hoping to get it sorted before the month goes. The thing is I won't let this thing bother me in any way cos that's what he wants.
So now for me, this is where boundaries come in, I mean real boundaries, not the ones we just say with our mouths but don’t enforce with our actions, I am learning that protecting my peace sometimes looks like silence, sometimes like walking away, and sometimes like doing the boring adult things quietly without announcing it to anyone, Changing numbers, tightening security, moving carefully all of that may look small, but it is me choosing myself.
I have also realized that some people don’t actually want reconciliation or closure, they just want access, Access to your emotions, your reactions, your energy, and once you deny them that, they start acting confused or pretending they don’t know what is going on, I see through it now, and honestly, that clarity alone feels like growth.
So yeah, this year, me I am not interested in proving anything to anyone, because I have done enough explaining in the past, I have carried guilt that wasn’t mine and stayed quiet when I should have spoken up. 2026 is not for that version of me, this year is for stability, calm, and healing especially for me and my kids, Whatever does not align with that automatically doesn’t get space in my life and I know it won't magically happen,but I'm choosing this peace over everything this year.
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