“Communication is the foundation of long-term relationships. It helps build trust, resolves conflicts, and heats up intimacy.” – Tony Robbins
Hey guys
Today I will be speaking on communication and its importance in our relationships.
As humans we naturally tend to misinterpret things unless they have been explicitly stated. In our daily interactions we give meaning to many things than are spoken about. Just from seeing, feeling or experiencing we subconsciously give things meaning.
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For instance, when we place a call to someone, say a friend if we don't get an immediate response our wonder mode kicks in. What I mean by wonder mode is that we start to create multiple scenarios why our friend didn't pick up.
Could it be that little thing I did that offended her? or she doesn't want to talk to me, and I just simply just get angry that when I needed her, she didn't come through for me, so therefore I am not happy with her.
There are many scenarios that could have come up, hence our wonder mode which is fine. But the issue is when we come to a conclusion on a particular thing and assume it is the reason why, especially from a negative point of view.
This is where communication comes in and it is important. Personally, I grew up not saying too much or sometimes not expressing the way I feel, even if I feel strongly about that particular thing. Now as I grow up, I can see it tell on my relationships when I don't say how I feel or what I think.
I still struggle with it, but I try to put conscious efforts towards communicating how I feel (respectfully and expressively) to the people I care about and the people around me.
From communication we realize things that we otherwise wouldn't, and we realize even things that shouldn't have been an issue because we can relate on that level, and we would also learn our differences and how to coexist together.
I had a time where I had some friends over and it was affecting my productivity in school, I din't know how to handle it and in my mind I was like I will have to ask them to excuse me from my space. It was really getting to me and I had stong feelings against it.
I had to calm myself down and not take drastic actions I was going to regret. I remembered communication could just be the issue and so I found the best way to communicate how I felt, and it ended in the most beautiful way.
So guysss, always try communicating it first.
Cheers 🥂