Why do people tend to have the feel that, when you does something for them today then it really means for the rest of your life with them, you are to keep doing that particular thing forever. Ladies feels to be the one who are mostly associated with such stuff. This has made many people especially men not to help out when a lady is at the verge of being busy than the normal.
I once heard a boss say, he was never going to take up the pain of going to the market ever again for her wife, all because his wife tight some time and he decided to run out the errand of moving to the market to get stuff for her. To him he did it out of compassion that his wife looked busy that day with a lot of things, only to see her so comfortable with the act of always asking him if he could do the market rounds again.
After him keeping up for eight consecutive times he made up his mind not to run the errand again, and to add up he was never going to offer compassion again if the wife has a lot at hand. To him him doing those errands is not his problem but the wife using his one time offer to help as a path to run that errand each day is what he sees as not being okay at all.
To add up there is this friend of my who complained of similar issue with one of his colleagues at work. This friend of mine has a motor cycle which he used to buy this female colleague food from work because there was no food around for her to eat that day. Ever since that day the lady made it a daily routine for him to be moving from work each time to buy her food from a location this lady do pass around everytime before she come to work.
To him he doesn’t see the need why this lady refuses to pass by where the food is being sold but rather come to work before she asks for favour from him to move to the same location to buy her food. Ever since he noticed that he looks busy with stuffs anytime the lady comes around. So I will kindly edge my dear ladies to kindly make sure that when favours are being done for them due to their busy schedule, they are not to use it as a thing the person owes her all the time. Most men really get pissed with such act.
Best regards
ferrate