We are bound to fight and have arguments in our relationships but at the end of the day we just need to let go ,apologise and become friends again. But at times,this fights sometimes reduces the bond we had before and the way we where vibing and relating before.
I am someone that has learnt to say sorry even when I am not wrong. I don't say sorry when I know i am not wrong at times because that will obviously fuel the ego of the people who did me dirty and make them think they are right to treat in me such manner and still not be willing to apologise.
I was granted admission into the university and was obviously given a room to stay in the hostel ,where i had alot of roomates. As I normally spend more time in the hostel I became close with one of our roomates.
He was younger than me and I felt he was cool and someone I could become friends with,somehow we became fiends not just friends,close friends.
I was enjoying his company and we normally always do everything together and even share things together. I even go as far as sharing the things I have gone through before coming to the university and other vital informations I wouldnt tell or share with anyone on a normal day.
As boys now,we always share the girls we have crush on and the ones we would like to approach and date. Anytime you see me going to the cafeteria to get food you will always see him.Infact,we alwsys put our plates in the same nylon after we have bought them from the cafeterias.
We were very close, but I noticed I was just the one sharing my experiences and problems with him and he wasn't even sharing his with me which doesnt sit right with me,but this wasn't what lead to our fight.
It happened that on a Sunday after we finished church I wasn't able to go to the cafeteria to get food because it will be congested and filled with students, so I had to wait for them to reduce before I decide to go get my food. So,I went to my hostel and I saw a sausage roll that belongs to one of our other roomates, and because I was hungry I took the sausage roll and ate it with the mindset that I will buy it back before he comes back ,so it won't lead to any quarrel or fight.
He came back to the room that day and as my friend ,i decided to share what i did with him and confided in him and i also told him i will buy the sausauge roll and put it back in the exact place my other roomate kept it ,which i did.
Later in the night,we were gisting and chatting about some certain things. As we were vibing,the guy i took his sausage roll was about eating the one I bought back when this my close friend burst into laughter,the boy became suspicious and was curious to know what was happening. I was so shocked when he told him I took his sausage roll and decided to buy it back. This really hurt me and made me very angry that i just had to show it,just because shared a secret with you, you let it out just like that. He was saying he was joking but it wasn't even a joke to me. After all this, he was ranting and saying I wouldn't have taken such if it was to be me and all that. On hearing this,I just stood up from my bed , picked a slippers and threw it at him.
It would have become really violent but I just had to calm myself down.
For few days, we weren't talking or even saying anything to each other. Later on,I went to meet him and I apologised ,we started talking back again and behaving as friend, bu the vibe wasn't there anymore,we weren't walking or do things together and the friendship we had just went dark and we just didn't see ourselves as that kind of friends anymore.
We still talk and greet each other till today but its just hi,hello,how are you doing,nothing serious.
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