There's a universal law that states that everyone loves and need to be loved. Although not peculiar to certain groups of people, but applicable to everyone no matter our race, age and backgrounds. Hugs, kiss and knowing that someone cares are basic necessities of humans and whenever these needs are not satisfied, humans feel disappointed, sad, lonely and unproductive.
The dynamic nature of the modern world have affected what relationships used to be. Nowadays, it's just like a series of events that everyone must obey in order to be loved. Starting from speaking up, inviting and having a date with the person are just but few steps now. Failure on any part, the other partner is free from accusations and blame when things turn sour. For example, training a lady in school without telling her what you wanted from him is a good excuse to leave the other without feeling bad and many people will support her. Reasons why it's important to follow this modern relationship criteria.
Although following these criteria religiously does not guarantee peaceful and lovely relationships, because many other factors if not consider can affect the union. For example, friends of the individual in question can have great influence over them. Their decisions are merely what their friend's views. Better to be in their good books so as to enjoy the relationship process and wonderful yields. In my case, I failed to listen and consider these factors and suffer serious heart break. Let me share the dinner experience with you.
Ada was gorgeous and beautiful. Like an African lady, she have sumptuous and chubby body shape with wonderful curves. She is indeed what a woman should be and everything, men needs are in great proportion. I appreciate and cherish her. After few encounters, I launched a massive attack with many gifts, sweet words and sacrifice from my arsenal to win her love. After several launches from several vintage points, I was unsuccessful but my mark is dully registered. Exactly what our African ladies will do.
However, things takes turn and goodness reaches me. Truly, everything good at its season same in love pursuit in my clime. When she finally relocated to our neighborhood from Northern region and saw how good, I was to people. She is hooked and nodded for the approval of our relationship. I was happy when she told me on phone that we should give it a try and having time for me makes it splendid too.
At all-time, we are enjoying the company of each other. We have many eat-out and visits of many relaxation centres. Everything was fine and sweet. Truly is that statement of whenever a lady have your time, you will know how sweet they are. Always at my business place and home, nothing is a good reason to break our relationship till one dinner date which really show who she is. I really pick up such characters as red flag as such signs can really cause let down and broken homes.
We billed to be out. A fancy restaurant was chosen and decided by us. She knows my budget and happy over it because she said that finances can't be our problem. I was recently duped which she knows and happy with me. Despite that financial status, I was ready to give her the world and make her happy. The first sign was her outburst of anger when I was late to the venue. I thought that ladies usually late on event but in this case, I was late and her insult with her frowned face tells it all. Her outburst was in that public place which was a sign, never to be forgetton in hurry. After pleading with her, she still not happy.
At the venue, locating our sit corner was not difficult because I usually visit this spot personally for entertainment purposes. I noticed that there are two more people in our table. They are our acquaintances and friends. But does not have anything to contribute to our date because we should be only two. She behaves as she did not invite them and they pretend as if they wanted to look for another spot on the ground. Asking her how she get there before me when she is calm, she told me that one of those boys brought her as he is mobile. Reason for her outburst as she want to assert authority and play victim role on the play. Then, I knew that she actually invited them and there will be no time for personal discussions.
In my clime, whenever a lady comes with her friends means that she never serious with that relationship and wanted to show off. Time for orders to be taken, I understand the game and tell them that I forget my wallet at home with crocodiles' tears. A play that saved me from that competitive and intense environment. One of the boy is very generous and brought more meats on our table. I asked for drinks and buy more of the meat for everyone. She knowing that I have passed her test of impressions, ask me if there's anything, we will discuss personally about our relationship. Trust me, I played dumb and continue to enjoy my time with the boys.
After some drinks and meats, young boys without real plan for their future and want to win over competitive environment. They bought a huge hunk of grilled meat and fish, I immediately washed my hands to enjoyed it with them. She became worrisome and angry that I supposed to pretend not to eat the fish and buy my own too. I did not mind her but keep enjoying the fish. She turned red and lashes out huge insults on me. Then, I knew that my time is on and excused them respectfully.
Finally
Shattered relationship is better than divorce. I left her sorrowfully and become useful. Trying to impress others is her biggest fault and public insults is a red flag which nobody can forget easily. I'm better singly than being with her. Happy that I noticed and consider this facts for my happiness in marriage