is happiness within or external?
Can someone be truly happy alone? Or you have to get it outside, from friends, family or a significant other.
Can you just sit alone all day doing your own favorite things by yourself and that's enough to make you happy forever.
Well I can, for a certain time, a day, two days, two and a half, three, but certainly not forever. I'm also aware there are some people who like being alone having their own space and doing their own thing or stuffs and are happy with it. No stress, no noise and being alone does the job.
Maybe just seeing the trees move calmly, the birds chirp too and little animals play and carry out their daily routines, that calmness, that fresh air, brings peace.
On the other hand, There are people who don't basically like being alone in fact being alone can make them sad.
They like being around people or family, friends, they like the night life of the city, they want to talk to people, share opinions make friends with other People, could be being around children etc.
Different things make different people happy. What ever brings happiness, which ever one of the two the bottom line is you're happy.
Life isn't fair.
Life isn't structured in a way that we will be happy all at the same time for the rest of our lives every single day from the day we were born, until the day we die on earth.
There is always an up and a down. There is always a tragedy or a fruitful and joyous event. There is always that thing that'll make us sad and for some people make them start asking questions.
I learnt we can't be happy every single day of our lives, that's life. But the good thing is, ones general life's happiness (true happiness) isn't counted by the days you're sad or the days things go wrong because a tragedy happened. That's basically life.
DOES TRUE HAPPINESS EXIST?
I'll say it exist, taking into fact and consideration that you can't be totally happy through out your life but know this and still choosing to be happy, despite.
Moving forward from what Ever might have made you sad, and staying happy after the healing process regardless.
That is, doing the things that make you happy, staying happy and knowing that bad things might happen but you'll move on (after the time of healing) regardless, still helping people and making others smile and happy along the way because at the end of the day, we all need each other.
Key word : making others smile and happy.
Making others happy
There's another kind of joy derived from helping others and putting a smile on someone's face. You still derive the happiness even if you go out of your way just to make that person smile genuinely.
It Might be a loved one, It might be a friend, it might be family member. It might even be a stranger.
Despite who it is there's joy in putting a smile on someone's face.
What can we get from putting a smile on another person's face?
- We tap from the persons joy (its automatic).
Knowing you made someone smile, especially someone you know needed it, Makes you happy too knowing you did something good. - You could save a life
A lot of people are going through a lot and just putting a smile on a face can bring hope. - You add to the general happiness in the world, one smile a day.
Drops of water makes up an Ocean. - It adds to your general true happiness
Like I said earlier there's a different kind of joy and happiness in making some happy.
Sometimes we do not have to do much in making others happy,because happiness can be contagious Just staying happy around people or someone that is sad.
Or singing the the Bob Marley song around a friend that needs it.
"Don't worry about a thing, because every little thing is gon be alright"
We all know they are things that can make a person not happy no matter how hard the person tries and one of that is not loving one self
We can not really talk about happiness and not talk about self love, because I guess you can't really love others or make others happy if you aren't happy with yourself. Forgetting the flaws and knowing nobody is perfect.
Not being too taken aback by how specific people look, When you see the beauty in yourself you might just start seeing the beauty in others despite their flaws. Making others feel confident.
Is there a way to attain true happiness?
Well what I think is, knowing what makes you happy, doing what makes you happy, whether it's being with a friend or friends, or being alone or or working towards achieving a dream and achieving it or helping people. And sometimes knowing that life might just hit but we have to move on at some point and enjoying putting a smile on a face despite the situation can set us on track.
In fact, in any situation we need to learn to accept reality and limit our needs as much as possible and be content with little. Then happiness will join our destiny.
Here he talks about how happiness works, how you have to change the your mindset towards happiness and accepting some fact about life, reality and ourselves.
Happiness is a free spirit and can't be forced
Some people have the concept that you cannot truly be happy, but I believe what you believe works for You and Yes one can truly be happy and putting smile on someone's face sometimes adds to that.
What do you think?