Reflexiones sobre amistades/Reflections on friendships. [ESP/ENG]

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Hola, aquí Abaddon, barbón y con lentes. Han pasado muchas cosas en lo que viene de año. No la pasé tan bien en la universidad; me junté con las personas equivocadas y salí envuelto en una de sus peleas. Era un grupo de amigos grande, éramos bastantes. Pero ninguno se respetaba; fue un error juntarme con esas personas.

Hi, it's Abaddon here, bearded and bespectacled. A lot has happened this year. I didn't have a great time at university; I fell in with the wrong crowd and got caught up in one of their fights. It was a big group of friends, quite a few of us. But none of them respected each other; it was a mistake to hang out with those people.

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Yo salí perjudicado, sí, lamentablemente. Como a mí me gusta ayudar a mis amigos, terminé metido en un problema muy desagradable. Todas esas personas se volvieron en mi contra. Al final de todo el asunto me disculpé con todos. Pero resulta que no importa cómo intentara disculparme, ellos solo lo veían como una humillación más; al disculparme les alimentaba sus egos.

I was the one who suffered, yes, unfortunately. Since I like to help my friends, I ended up in a very unpleasant situation. All those people turned against me. In the end, I apologized to everyone. But it turns out that no matter how I tried to apologize, they just saw it as another humiliation; apologizing only fed their egos.

Y seguían con una burla en la universidad. Lamentándolo mucho, esas no son amistades. Por culpa de esas personas desarrollé malas actitudes y me he metido en problemas. Son cosas de personas jóvenes que apenas empiezan a hacer las cosas. Me dejé manipular por ellos; ya es momento de cuidarme de las personas con las que me junto o las personas que consideras amigos. Mi madre me dice que nadie es amigo de nadie. No es tan así, sí hay personas con las que se puede hacer una buena amistad.

And they continued to make fun of me at university. I'm sorry to say, but those aren't friendships. Because of those people, I developed bad attitudes and got into trouble. It's just something young people do when they're just starting out. I let them manipulate me; It's time to be careful about the people I hang out with, or the people I consider friends. My mother tells me that no one is truly anyone's friend. It's not quite like that; there are people with whom you can form a good friendship.

Mi amigo Hive account@neiser, que estudia ingeniería en la universidad, me dijo que esas personas son así, que al principio te juntas con ellas hasta que ves qué clase de personas son. La pasé bastante difícil en la universidad. Me toca cuidarme de esas personas, no quiero salir envuelto en otra de sus peleas. Personalmente, yo digo que no es culpa de ellos, es culpa mía por dejarme influenciar por esas personas y confiar demasiado en ellos.

My friend Hive account@neiser, who studies engineering at university, told me that those kinds of people are like that—you hang out with them at first until you see what kind of people they really are. I had a pretty tough time at university. I have to be careful around those people; I don't want to get caught up in another one of their fights. Personally, I say it's not their fault; it's my fault for letting myself be influenced by them and trusting them too much.

Quizás no hice lo correcto al disculparme miles de veces ya al ver sus actitudes. En ese sentido me faltó respeto propio. Son personas sin valores y yo me estaba convirtiendo en eso. Yo nunca me había molestado tanto en mi vida con alguien; me dejé llevar por las mentiras y terminé rompiendo toda relación con esas personas.

Maybe I didn't do the right thing by apologizing a thousand times after seeing their behavior. In that sense, I lacked self-respect. They are people without values, and I was becoming like them. I had never been so upset with anyone in my life; I let myself be swayed by their lies and ended up cutting all ties with them.

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Me desconozco a mí mismo por hacer esa clase de cosas. Otro amigo me recomendó que me olvidara de esas personas si te afecta, y sí me afectó, me enfermaron. Me sentía muy culpable por las cosas que hice que intenté arreglarlo de todas las maneras, pero no valía la pena; lo mejor fue romper esas amistades. Ellos me trataban como un lacayo de ellos, un peón; nunca respetaron mi opinión. Pasé algunos momentos buenos con ellos, pero al final no era lo mejor ser amigo de esas personas.

I don't recognize myself for doing those kinds of things. Another friend recommended that I forget about those people if they were affecting me, and they did affect me; they made me sick. I felt so guilty about the things I did that I tried to fix things in every way, but it wasn't worth it; the best thing was to end those friendships. They treated me like a lackey, a pawn; they never respected my opinion. I had some good times with them, but in the end, being friends with them wasn't the best thing.

Actué como una persona sin cerebro, sin respeto propio. Lo único que gané con esto es una lección valiosa: cuidar mis amistades y saber quiénes son amigos y quiénes no. Escribir esta publicación es una manera de desahogarme de ese problema que tuve con esas personas; no quiero dar detalles porque es algo que podría decir bastante fuerte, es un tema delicado. Espero no volver a pasar por ese tipo de situaciones que afectaron mi paz mental.

I acted like a brainless person, with no self-respect. The only thing I gained from this was a valuable lesson: to cherish my friendships and know who my true friends are and who they aren't. Writing this post is a way for me to vent about the problems I had with those people; I don't want to go into details because it's something I could say quite strongly, it's a sensitive topic. I hope I never go through those kinds of situations again, situations that affected my peace of mind.