Since our 200-level days, people have always raised their eyebrows at the closeness between Patience and me. We’ve shared lectures, worked on practicals side by side, and sometimes walked together on campus. Naturally, this created a picture in the minds of many that something deeper must be going on between us.
The whispers began quietly, but before long, they became louder. Friends would tease me, saying things like:
“When will you finally tell us that you’re dating Patience?”
At first, I laughed it off. Sometimes Patience and I would joke about it together, while other times we simply ignored it and focused on our academic journey. Yet, as each semester passed, people became even more convinced that our friendship must be a hidden relationship.
But today, after our defense, I finally decided to clear the air. We had just taken some group pictures, smiling with the relief that comes after such a major milestone. Then I said it plainly: “Patience is my friend, my colleague, and my supporter, but not my girlfriend.”
The reactions were priceless. Some laughed in disbelief. Others shook their heads as if I was hiding something. A few even looked disappointed, as though they wanted the rumors to be true. But for me, it was a moment of truth and freedom.
The reality is this: not every closeness between a man and a woman must end in romance. Some friendships are simply built on respect, loyalty, and the willingness to support one another’s growth. That is the bond Patience and I share. She is intelligent, dependable, and trustworthy. These are qualities that made her a wonderful friend to have throughout my academic journey.
I’ve come to realize that society often underestimates the value of pure friendship. People rush to attach labels where none exist. Yet, true friendship is one of the most beautiful treasures of life. It strengthens focus, creates accountability, and makes the journey easier.
Looking back, I am grateful for Patience’s role in my life since 200-level. She has contributed to my growth in countless ways, and together we have shared memories that will last beyond school. Whether or not people believe my explanation is not my concern anymore,I know the truth, and that’s enough.
Friendship deserves to be celebrated just as much as romantic love. Relationships may come and go, but genuine friendships built on trust and sincerity can stand the test of time.
Reflection:
Have you ever had a close friendship that others misunderstood? Do you think society sometimes struggles to accept that men and women can just be good friends without romance being involved?
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In the pictures I have Wisdom, Promise and Temitope.