Nowadays, You call a friend and they do not answer. Sometimes the phone rings for five time yet no answer and no return calls. A while later, you check on them on WhatsApp and the following conversation happend
Your friend: oh babe, I have been very busy no vex.
You: no problem, hope you are good.
12hrs later.
Your friend replied with a sticker.
A week later, you call, your friend and he or she answer.
Your friend: hey, how are you. Hope you are okay Give me a minute please, I am doing something at the. I will call later. That day is gone and he or she did not return the call
4days later, you post a WhatsApp status. Your friend replies and you both laugh. You now call WhatsApp call, your friend picks.45mins of catching up, laughing and you listening to all they have been about and you update her too. Then the call ends
You all be updating WhatsApp status while not talking to each other. Then your friends starts posting like:
“If you call me every day, you’ll bore me. I will block you “
“True friendship doesn’t have to speak to each other every day , me and my bestie we speak once in a while but we always got each other backs “
“Friendship is about understanding “
You see such post and it likes daily, and slowly you begin to accept it as a norm.
Now you are no longer checking on people, you too is not available to other people who love you, and slowly, you are now like your friend.
Now guess what? That’s how friendship with your friend ended because you started acting like them too.
In addition, you have used that habit to frustrate the ones who sincerely care about you, now you are all by yourself, hardly sustaining any meaningful relationships and the disturbing thing is that, you still have not figured out what the problem is…
but the truth is that you cannot force friendship. Friendship thrives on effort, sacrifice, understand and genuine love. Take note of the energy you receive from a certain friend and know how much he or she values your friendship. At the same time, do not ruin good relationships because of one bad relationship. The new one might be a compensation for the one bad relationship you had the other time.