I came across this topic and I feel like it's the right time to share my past, thanks to the community for this opportunity. Hoping to learn more
It’s funny how someone can go from meaning the world to you to becoming just a memory. I never thought I would be writing about this, but sometimes sharing helps the healing.
My ex-boyfriend and I started like something out of a dream. He was kind, caring, and very intentional about me. From morning texts to surprise food deliveries when I didn’t feel well, he made sure I felt special every single day. We would laugh over the smallest things, take long walks, and talk about everything our dreams, fears, and future. I really believed he was the one I will live with till the end.
One of the best memories I have is when he travelled all the way just to surprise me on my birthday. He showed up with a small cake, some flowers, and that big smile I always loved. It wasn’t the gifts that touched me it was the effort. That day, I told myself, This is the kind of love I prayed for with full excitement.
Then came the twist he got posted for NYSC in Plateau State. At first, we stayed close. Calls, chats, video calls everything was still going well. But slowly, I started noticing the changes. Fewer calls. Cold replies. Excuses that didn’t sound right. I asked if something was wrong, but he said I was overthinking.
Until one day, I found out the truth. He had met someone else during his service year. A friend sent me photos I never imagined I’d see him, all smiles with her. It felt like the ground swallowed me. I didn’t cry right away. I just sat there, numb and felt disorganized.
When I confronted him, he didn’t even deny it. He simply said, things change, and I didn’t want to hurt you. But he had already done that hurt deeply.
It took me a long time to forgive not just him, but myself for trusting so deeply. But now I see it differently. That love we shared was real, even if it didn’t last. He taught me what it means to be loved and sadly, also what it feels like to be broken.
I still remember the beautiful parts, and I don’t regret them cos from there I learn to be strong and focus my life and Because they showed me what I deserve. And now, I choose peace, self-worth, and healing.
If you’ve ever had your heart broken, I hope you know this you will smile again. Just like I’m learning to.
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