Hmmmm... Anger!
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A kind of normal emotion that everyone feels. Not just human beings but also animals and even nature. It is an emotion that cannot be done without, a feeling which adds to the essence and spice of life. Well, before I go further, I would love for us to know what exactly anger is.
What is anger?
Anger is a human emotion or feelings of intense hostility or frustration towards a person, an object or a situation you find yourself in. It is a natural response to perceived threats which makes the affected person to either take action to defend himself or address the source of their anger.
I'd love to share a story of myself while I was a child and my growing up days. You see, I used to be an angry child, definitely not something I'm totally proud of but then again it was part of me and I cannot delete it from my life. My mom once told me that when I was still a toddler, each time I was hungry and I started crying, the moment I was not fed immediately, I begin to scatter everything around me and when the food comes, I pour it away out of my so called anger. So you see, even a child with no knowledge how life is also feels angry. What more we adults? Well, it goes further to me growing and becoming a little too angry for a child. I tend to get angry at any slightest provocation, and at that time and age, I had no idea what anger management was all about. For me it was all "making the person next to me feel the pain of my anger" cause trust me, anger comes with a lot of pain. I could go a whole day without eating if I was angry at someone or about something, I could keep malice out of anger. While I felt such anger, it always goes down to affecting my health, where my chest always felt tighter and breathing was always hard for me, cause of the level of my anger. I grew up and eventually realized I was only hurting myself and no one else. I suddenly began to consciously avoid letting my anger get the better part of me.
Having talked about my anger, let's talk about how I got to adequately manage it and become the sweet person I am today, trust me, I know I'm the sweetest🤭😁.
First of, let's understand what anger management is.
What is Anger Management?
Anger management is simply the process of learning how to recognize, understand and control anger In a healthy and constructive manner.
In as much as anger is a natural feeling, we shouldn't allow it take control of us and allow it make us do things we will end up regretting. Cause we know that decisions taken in a fit of anger is always to be regretted afterwards and this even goes down to words we blurt out in the midst of this particular emotion. Even the Bible in ephesians 4:26, it says "in your anger do not sin, do not let the sun go down while you are still angry". It simply shows that even our faith recognizes anger and the fact that it is bound to be felt and feeling angry is not is committing sin, but allowing it to dwell in us for long is where the problem is. Because it can lead to things we won't be proud of. Understanding this scripture, we can see that even the Bible is of the view that anger management is very necessary.
How do you manage your anger? How do I manage my anger? These are the main questions to be answered and the main essence of this conversation. I definitely cannot answer about how you manage your anger but I can share on how I manage mine.
Firstly, I recognized that I had a problem and I knew I had to do something about it, trust me, the feeling af anger is not nice at all. After realizing I had a problem, I consciously avoided any and every possible thing that could make me angry or trigger my anger. But then again we cannot avoid such scenarios, people are bound to offend and piss you off. When I find myself in such a situation, I made it an obligation to myself to be quiet and if possible get up and walk away from that anger triggering environment. With time I got to realize that it actually helped me, I just wanted to be in peaceful environments and having less anger triggering conversations. Another technique I use in managing my anger is sleeping it off. Having myself a good sleep when I get to start feeling angry is a medication I highly recommend, cause when I wake up I forget why I was even angry in the beginning.
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Remember in the beginning I said even nature and animals get angry? Well yes, they don't have anger feeling like we do but they exhibit certain anger related traits that correlates with the characteristics of anger. For instance, animals fighting themselves is a means of them defending or protecting themselves from a threat a scary experience.
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And nature, natural occurrences like tornado, whirl wind, and even harsh water waves can be related to the feeling of anger.
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Now, how do you manage your anger? I'd love to know.
