Hey guys welcome to my blog, So today I will be talking about the kind of marriage I prefer. well since I was little I had always loved Traditional marriage and Church weddings, I love seeing brides and her girls looking their best. I use to love the wedding hall decorations especially a garden wedding.
I used to love bridal showers, I used to love the traditional marriage decorations and every single details of the traditional fabrics, the baskets, beads etc. The traditional musicians with their instruments displaying and all, as a matter of fact any girl that didn't do a church wedding or a big traditional marriage is not considered married to me 😂 lol, like my opinion mattered.
But as I grew up my mentality changed I started seeing weddings and marriages differently, I started seeing where husbands treats their wife so badly, sometimes beat them to coma and in some cases they beat their wife to death, Sometimes I wonder how a man would look at his pregnant wife and still beat her so hard regardless the fact that she's almost due for delivery.
I started asking myself, I thought marriage is supposed to be a beautiful union between a man and a woman? that is supposed to be built on love, trust and commitment and this process is supposed to include growth and understanding.
The both parties are supposed to give each other mutual respect, have a very good communication skills, provide each other Security and emotional support, also facing life challenges together and also sharing responsibilities.
But it seemed like I thought wrongly, because I only see conflict where the man and the woman disagrees with each other in a very unhealthy manner, The man becomes so rigid, refusing to adapt to changes as a married man, still keeps late nights, cheats, refusing to say yes to commitment, he brings different girls to his matrimonial home and Chase his wife from the bed while he sleeps in their matrimonial bed and even make love to her and compare his wife to sleep still on the floor and watch them do their rubbish.
If you say anything they will answer you with, a man is entitled to more than one wife, and it's also in a man's nature to cheat, That is a demonic statement from the pit of hell.
This same man did church marriage and traditional marriage, and still they couldn't obey a simple Instruction from the Bible that said, one man, one woman.
With all I have said I want to bring us to the kind of marriage I prefer in our today's generation which is the Court marriage. In this kind of marriage there's no religious or any social barrier, court marriage gives legal protection to the couples, especially the ladies, this type of marriage promotes equality among couples because they are governed by the law and nobody is supposed to be above the law.
Since some men are taking their submissive wives for granted, it is better to have a court marriage and have your peace and if it's becoming too toxic you file for a divorce and take your own share of his properties and go and live your life before the ground help you live it.
Dear women in toxic marriage you deserve half of their properties don't pity them, your body went through a process and that process made them a father and changed your whole life and still you are not valued? I wonder how some men thinks, at least for the sake of the babies change your ways and start treating her better.
But if the change refuses to come please sisters run for your life and your mental health with half of their properties and also sue them for human right violations, by the time another woman divorces them and take another half of their properties, then they will learn to treat women right.
I am not a bittered woman I only hate when women are treated badly in their marriages. Marriages are supposed to be enjoyed not endured.
NOTE: MARRIAGE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING DON'T GET IT TWISTED.
Thanks for reading, bye.