Personally, I don't think relationship has its general red flags in life, I feel everyone has his or her red flags when it comes to relationships, there are things some people can tolerate in a relationship while there are some that cannot take it,
Yes, relationship is not without it misunderstanding, but there are people that don't see the causes as red flag while their are people who can't just take it cause of the way they are
So, I feel everyone has a red flag in a relationship.
Communication is the back bone of any successful relationship,
Imagine have a discussion with your partner, where he responds to every thing you say and gives listening ears to you
You know there are conversation that may actually look like it's a force one, but having a honest and sincere discussion with someone where the response does not just come from the head alone but from the heart, where you're expressing your genuine emotions and concerns and you are given attentive attention to it
Then imagine having a relationship without a sincere and honest communication, omoh, it's not to be classified as a relationship seriously 😂
So lack of communication is a big red flag to a relationship
Not able to apologize to your partner is another big red flag for me
I've always been someone who values honesty and accountability in my relationship, I'm a very petty person who battles with mood swings, and apologies can be a powerful tool in diffusing tension and healing hurt feelings
But I've noticed that some people seem to have a hard time saying those two simple "I'm sorry". They seem to think that apologizing is a sign of weakness, or that it's beneath them. Some believe that apologizing to a woman is a way of giving her permission to disrespect them
I've seen men who are genuinely sorry for their actions, but they just can't seem to bring themselves to say it. Instead, they might try to make amends in other ways by buying gifts or doing favors. But for me, it's not about the gestures, it's about the simple act of acknowledging hurt and taking responsibilities
Apologies are not just about admitting fault, they're about showing maturity and empathy. When someone apologies, it shows that they're willing to listen, to learn, and to grow. It shows that they value the other person's feelings and are willing to make amends
For me, a man who can apologize is a man who is confident, secure, and genuinely invested in the relationship, it's not about being "the head'' or maintaining some kind of power dynamic, it's about being human, and being willing to show vulnerability and compassion
I respect men who can apologize, it's not because they're weak, but because they're strong enough to admit when they're wrong. they are strong enough to put there ego aside and prioritize the relationship
In my eyes oh, apologies are not just a nicety, they are necessity. They're a sign of a healthy, functioning relationship,and a sign that both partners are willing to work together to build something strong and lasting
Being emotionally numb or insensitive
Emotional intelligence and empathy are non negotiable in a partner. I crave someone who understands me, one who can sense my emotions, understand my feelings and offer comfort when need be
I'm really a difficult person when it comes to handling things emotionally,not all things are meant to be said, imagine having someone who doesn't even care of such feelings or mood,
Having a man who can read the cues of my mood, one who is really sensitive is a big flex
Anything less would be a red flag for me, it's a sign that the relationship might not be emotionally sustainable for me.
You see that thing they call Manipulation, is another red flag for me
I hate it when someone make me look less of my self, by criticizing me to make me feel bad about myself,
Or finding fault in everything I do, by making me feel like my thoughts, actions are not good enough for me
It's a total red flag bruhh
I do not have relationship with people that belittle me or my ability, I cannot handle such relationship as a person
One who is arrogant is also a total red flag, such people do not use to feel remorseful for there action, once I noticed you're that kind of person ,I will flee, cause I cannot be handling an arrogant partner and still be handling the stress of life, it's a whole lot to carry, if one cannot have a soft life due to life stress, I should have a soft kinda relationship that will bring peace to my soul...
My little opinion though 🤧
Thanks for reading 😊