We live in a world where friendship and relationship can be complicated and confusing. Many people have been disappointed by their friends, who they thought were in a relationship with, only for them to realize they were just friends.
The question "Are we in a relationship or just friends" is a very important question to ask especially when you are not sure of that closeness and friendship you have with someone. The question may sound simple to the ear but it has great implications.
Most times, some people mistake been a friend to someone and been in a relationship because of the level of closeness, the kind of time spend with eachother, the kind of conversation and things shared, that's why it's very important to ask question about the friendship so that you can be sure of your stand with that person.
I was with a friend of mine on Friday and the lady was complaining bitterly that I don't call her as often as before nor even chat her or check up on her, she was like what happened, did she do something wrong? I told her no she didn't do anything wrong, is just that I'm to occupied with different activities and hardly have time for myself and she made a statement, "what kind activities are you engage with that you don't have time for your girlfriend that statement lead to a discussion that lasted for over an hour plus.
I had a friend back then in the higher institution, we were very close, we share personal thought, secrets, laugh, gist, and even act as couples. For those who don't know us very well will actually think we were dating. One day she decided to get clarification about our friendship and to know what exactly we were doing. She knew we were just best friends but she needed more clarification as to if we were still maintaining our friendship. She asked me if we were still friends or not. By so doing, she was able to gain clarity as to what exactly we were doing.
Asking the question "if you are we in a relationship or just friends to someone" helps (you and that person you are always with) clarify any misunderstanding you have and also enables you know your stand. Without you clarifying yourselves, one among you may think you are in a relationship while the other may think you both are just friends.
Just imagine two people constantly communicating with eachother, always calling and texting, chatting always, sharing some deep secrets, going out all the time and even acting like couples. One of them may start thinking they are in a relationship if the friendship is not well defined.
I have a very close friend in my community. Everyone in the community thinks we are in a relationship and some may argue to the core that we both are dating. But the truth is we are not dating. We are just close friends who have defined our friendship and set boundaries. Yes we act like people who are dating sometimes, share thoughts etc but we have clarified our friendship and every knows where he/she stands.
If your friendship with that person you are always with is not properly defined, one person will end up getting disappointed at the end. It is very important you ask so that you can understand your stand and be able to save you time and energy. The thing is no body will want to spend a long time with someone thinking they are in a relationship with only to find out that all the while they were just a friend and was never in a relationship.
When you ask the necessary question early, it will help you not to invest your time and energy or even waste your time and energy especially if that person is not in for any relationship.
Like I said we live in a world were relationships can be complicated and confusing, so asking the question " if you are in a relationship or not will give you the answers and clarity of where you stand and to prevent any late disappointment that may follow. Peace......