As I was scrolling through Facebook platform today, I came across a post where someone was asking is its okay to test your partners loyalty? And as I read through the comments, I was amazed by some people’s response. Many people especially the ladies agreed with the question that is okay to test your partner’s loyalty. Most of them believed is a way of confirming their partners trust and sincerity, others believed is a way of finding out if their partners can handle temptations, to some is a way of confirming if their partner is cheating on them or hiding somethings from them but for whatever reason it may be, in my opinion I don’t think testing your partners’ loyalty is a good idea. It’s not okay.
Testing your partners’ loyalty can be very risky and may destroy trust in a relationship. Trust is a very vital ingredient that keeps a relationship going and so when you test your partners’ loyalty, what you are trying to do or say is, you don’t trust your partner and you believe he/she might betray you or might cheat on you. How will you feel or react when someone you care about test your loyalty towards them? I’m sure you will feel bad about it and will probably look at it as if your partner doesn’t believe in you even if you are loyal and faithful to them. Some people go as far as using their friends or best friends to tempt their partners’ loyalty which is very bad. What if your friend or best friend is crushing or having emotional feelings for your partner without you knowing, don’t you think they may want to see your relationship destroyed? Don’t you think that such a person can go extra miles to see your relationship scattered. Even if your partner is loyal, they may create lies against your partners and make it looks like your partner has failed your test, before you know, you may start having issues in your relationship which could be of advantage to them (your friend).
Testing the loyalty of your partner can break the trust they have for you especially if they actually trust you from the onset before you decide to test them.
To me, testing your partners’ loyalty is a sign of disrespect to your partner, what you are doing when testing your partners’ loyalty is equating them to a criminal because it shows you don’t trust your partners’ honesty, sincerity and truth.
One thing we should put at the back of our mind is that, testing your partners’ loyalty may not go as you planned it and may backfire against you if care is not taken. To some people, trust, loyalty and sincerity is a virtue to them and if they find out that you are testing their loyalty and sincerity, it will show that you don’t trust them and so they might decide to end and leave the relationship.
In as much as many people think is okay to test their partners’ loyalty, I think we should weigh the consequence that may follow especially if your partner is actually loyal, sincere and faithful to you but found out that you are testing him/her, whatever happens after the testing shouldn’t be someone else fault. Like I said, is just my opinion and I stand to be corrected. Peace !!!!
