When a society is dysfunctional, a lot of unpleasant ideas tend to stream on. One of such ideas is the idea of double dating or call it for what it really is, Cheating. A dysfunctional society begins with a dysfunctional home and upbringing. This doesn't just affect orphans or children that grew up with a single parent, it affects everyone who came out from a dysfunctional family. A family where abuse of different sorts is the other of the day making it easy for the children to think that it's normal. I was on a bus some days back and witnessed a man punch a random woman who was trying to come down while he was entering the bus simply because she slightly pushed him. That man looked like someone in his early 40s, imagine if he should have a family, his kids will probably think it is okay to do that because they see their father do it.
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Growing up, I witnessed my father cheat, I saw how it affected my mum, and told myself I would never do such to my own wife. If I had grown up in a family where such an action went unchallenged, I would probably think it's okay to do so and would aspire to do it myself. A lot of people say men are scum, some of the people that say this don't even know why, they just do it because their society sees men like that. Perhaps the men in their society are really scum, but it takes another level of intelligence and freedom to realize that they are just being mediocres. I mean both them and the ones that actually make them think so. Realizing that bad and good are the balance that makes the universe will make you see things differently.
Double dating otherwise known as cheating by me is not just a sin against the partners, but against the person who decided to do it as well. When you double date, you teach your subconscious to become greedy, you feed your subconscious with lies and let your subconscious think it's what everyone else is doing and therefore it's normal. Instead of secretly double dating, if you think you can handle polygamy, then openly say it. Because the truth is you are not alone in your school of thought. Irrespective of your gender, if you wish to go into polygamy, you are free, there are men who actually don't mind sharing a partner with someone, don't just hurt another person who thinks he/she has you all to themselves.
