I have come to the end of my self to realize that dating is not for the weak. One minute its all bee, flowers and honey, and the next minute you are at war with your spouse. More like fighting spartan war in the movie 300 Sparta.
Different person have their different experiences with their past relationships. Some allowed the bad experience keep them tied up and turned into what they hate, while some embraced their mistakes, found solutions and moved on, more like true healing.
"I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket," says a lady or a guy that has been in many toxic relationships and is not willing to take any other risk. Some persons see this statement as a red flag, but then, it is worth understanding that bad experiences moulds people into things they would not want to be in a normal circumstance.
In our world today, people take pride when they are called players. Instead of playing with a football, people prefer to play with the hearts of other people just for fun.
Relationships is not actually worth anything as some guys see it as a way to get free coitus, while some ladies see it as a way of milking a guy. Tch, such a drag.
In the aspect of dating, I use to view life as - one man for a woman, and one woman for a man, but then, when I started dating, I began to see reasons why people don't date just one person.
Many people have become scared of dating. Even though they are scared, they still want to date somebody to alleviate the feeling of loneliness, and get tender loving care, thus, they go around dating different people at once. Due their past heartbreak, they want to break other people's and be seen as a player. They double date and go from one person to another just to fill the void created in their heart by their previous date.
Some people, like my self, instead of going from one date to another or dating more than one, prefer to remain single until they are ready in all ramifications to look for another date.
No matter what the case may be, I always frown against double dating. Personally, I see it as a bad thing to do because if another person do it to me, I will not like it. I do to others what I want them to do to me.
It is important to avoid double dating. Dating two persons will never aid concentration and connection to the main date, instead, there will be a gap between the man and the woman.
The love and trust will not be there as much as it should be, because the person that is double dating will think their spouse is doing same. There is a saying in my home town, "a thief will always think other people are thieves." Same applied to somebody that double dates. They will always think their spouse is doing the same thing, which will make them not to take the relationship serious.