From my own point of view, I feel things should be transparent in a relationship. But before giving a point I did like to explain few things.
Pexel
What is a relationship?
A relationship is a bond between two or more people either, from different ethnic groups, family or place to achieve a common goal. A relationship can also be referred to as a connection between two or more people, either romantic, familiar, friendly, or professional.
What is private?
Private in simply term is something personal or intimate, it can also be called confidential. Respecting individual privacy is really good. For a healthy and good relationship.
In the other hand, transparency is the opposite of privacy. Its an open intimacy, but in term of relationship, your passing a confidential information, with a hope that it's going to stay between two ears.
Now, back to our topic, Should things be Private or transparent in a relationship. My honest answer is yes.
Yes, because it's makes room for plenty things,and Parts of the benefits of a transparency in a relationship include:
1. Trust: Openness builds faith in each other, the engine room of trust is openness. Your ability to tell each other things is what makes bond stronger.
2. Communication: when there's communication, there would be honest dialogue or conversation and resolving issues of would never be a problem in the relationship. It gives ones spouse or partner the strength to defend you even in your absent.
3. Intimacy: Transparency brings intimacy, vulnerability deepens emotional and psychological connection between two people.
4. Accountability: when there's transparency partners take responsibility for actions they did, either wrong or right.
5. Understanding: your ability to tell your partner what happens create room for reduced misunderstandings.
- Stronger bonds- a person who knows you, would be strong with you, stand by you and be with you no matter what. why? he or she knows everything about you. except that person genuinely does not feel as you do. Else the bond becomes strong when he or she knows your been open.
7. Reduced conflicts- there would be less room for conflict when both parties are open books to each other. If both can be plain and open about their life, decision and majorly issues concerning their selves, family and sometimes past life and mistakes helps keep away from conflict in a relationship. Only a fool judges the one he or she claims to love based on their past.
8. Increased emotional safety: when your past is known to your partner, there sure would be emotional safety. Nobody wants to get heart broken in a relationship someday. So being transparent creates that safe space.
9. Healthier communication: Yeah, you did be able to have a normal and stable conversation without fear of arguments or dragging.
10. Deeper connection: yeah, it's keep both party deeply close to each other.
I also want you to know that the opposite of this, is what comes out in a relationship where two partners keep things away from each other.
Finally,to my own point of view, it's better to open up, in a relationship than hurt that person with the burnt of the latter truth. And do to others, what you want to be done to you.
