Just recently, only this week, a woman came under fire for saying that while she was dating another man, her husband(who was only a friend at the time) used his charming, calm chasing skills to woo her. So while her then boyfriend was told that the other guy was only a friend and he believed and wasn't worried, her husband was trying to get her and he did.
Many people online weren't having it. A lot of persons said she was double dating. I actually had no opinion about it but I sure understood a bit why people don't want their partners having best friends of the opposite sex. Plus, I thought, if she gave in to her husband(friend then) without first calling things off with her boyfriend, then maybe people were right and she was double dating.
Double dating is not something I've ever done. Not even something that I've ever considered. I see it happen. Girls having multiple partners and vice versa. Every one of them giving reasons while it's a viable option and a thing to do.
I have this older friend of mine, who ,at the time, was just in her early thirties, was seeing two guys. She told me to not ever double date, says she's eager to get married and wouldn't want to be with one person and after a while, things end and she has to start all over and had had to lose time. More like, she wasn't putting all her eggs in a basket. She said I should date right since I've got the time. I understood her, I think.
I will not start to try to mince words because my friend double dated. I've always thought that double dating is wrong. And that hasn't changed. People say they want to test the waters and just have backups and/or be prepared just in case one partner fails them. But I say that this act invalidates everything that makes for a healthy relationship. You don't go into a relationship with the mindset that a breakup would happen. If you do, then you have to check yourself. And if breakups do happen, it's horrible, but okay. These things happen. Or would you rather remain with a person who isn't right for you?
Double dating is a sure sign of infidelity and disloyalty. I think it's mostly fueled by the lack of discipline and utter disrespect not even for the people involved but for you cause, even with having multiple partners, heartbreak is not impossible.
No one who truly knows what they want and values themselves enough gets tangled in that. I don't know more than this, but I think it's wrong.
Until next time...BYE!