REVIEW BOOK: The art of not becoming bitter in life [ENG/ ESP]

If we would all apply what this book says, we would live better and happier lives, without worries or pressure from society.

Si todos aplicaríamos lo que dice este libro, viviríamos mejor y felices, sin preocupaciones ni presión por la sociedad.

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It has been a long time since I read the truth, this is one of the things I have decided to take up again and do every day if possible; the first book I read in its entirety is called The art of not becoming bitter in life, it is a self-help book written by the psychologist Rafael Santandreu.

In it he tells us different stories, some from his patients' experiences, others from the past, but each one with a reflection or message.

I really liked it, while I was reading it, I thought how right all this was, sometimes we ourselves complicate our lives so much, and we tend to terribilize everything, (word which I use a lot in each chapter of the book), to make us see and understand that nothing can be as terrible as we imagine it to be.

There are things that happen for a reason and others that do not, but that does not mean that we are going to make our lives bitter, if you do not like something, it does not mean that it is bad, we must always try to make sense of everything, for a reason it is presented to us.

This book consists of 23 chapters, each one with an important reflection, and examples of how we can visualize life differently, how we tend to terribilize everything, without focusing on the most important thing which is our mental health.

Nobody is perfect, neither us, nor the others.

How accurate is this phrase that this psychologist emphasizes here, and it is so true, we focus on being perfect, on seeking perfection in what we do, that we completely forget to enjoy the process, to live it as it should be.

It is forbidden to complain.

I know people who are always complaining about everything, they are never satisfied, I confess I usually do it too, but I do not get involved in it (I think hahahaha), what sense does it make to complain so much, as if that will change things, on the contrary, you only make your existence bitter, and even that of others, because they have to listen to your complaints.

As I said, there are things that we cannot control and others that we can, your attitude for example, that you can try to control, because it is in your hands, it does not depend on anyone else, only on you; that is why now I just breathe and stay calm, away from everything that disturbs my peace, because the priority must always be our Peace of Mind.

That is what this book is about, to give you that little reflection, that other way of seeing life, and everything that happens to us, to work on our mental health, to accept yourself and others as they are; we can suggest how to change, but the decision is up to each one.

I wish many would read this book, especially those people who spend their time complaining and seeing the bad in everything, I think we would all be different and we would see what happens to us as a small setback, but it is not the end of the world, and that everything in this life has a solution.

Losing the fear of Loneliness

Sometimes for not wanting to be alone, for needing a partner to accompany us, we cling to people who hurt us, to false ideas that bring us, show us, we blind ourselves, and we see ourselves beyond reality, and when we want to get out of that vicious and toxic circle, it tends to be a little late.

Hence the famous phrase, BETTER ALONE THAN BADLY ACCOMPANIED, in this world so corrupt, so frivolous, and cruel, with people who only think of themselves, so selfish, definitely, loneliness becomes our best companion; not everyone is bad, it is true, and although the good ones should be more, many do not think so, and are carried away by evil.

SPECIFIC PHRASES, WHICH WE WILL SEE IN THIS BOOK

No one needs anyone, so we don't need the approval of others either.	It is better to suggest than to demand change in others..

Making mistakes is normal and positive, we learn from them.	Happiness does not depend on achievements or ideal situations, but on our mental health.

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Phrases like these and many more, the author of this book leaves us to reflect, and as I said, makes us reflect, so that we apply it and understand many things in life, how we can see things differently, always thinking about our mental health, of course this will not be overnight, like everything in this life, it takes time, but taking one step at a time, you can move forward.

Life surprises us in many ways, inexplicable things happen, unjustifiable losses, I think of an event that happened, a young woman full of life, energy, dreams, goals, and so, overnight, her light was turned off, the truth still does not assimilate it, it is such a big pain, so sad, but something we have for sure in this life, is death, which sometimes surprises us, and can come at the least expected time.

Only God knows the reason of things, we can only be thankful for everything we have lived, what we could and what we could not.

Well friends, until this summary of the book, I hope you are encouraged to read it, to reflect, analyze and think about many things.

🤓Thank you for reading me this far🤓

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SPANISH VERSION

Hace mucho que no leía la verdad, esta es una de las cosas que he decidido retomar y hacer todos los días si es posible; el primer libro que me leí completo se llama El arte de no Amargarse la vida, es un libro de autoayuda escrito por el psicólogo Rafael Santandreu.

En el mismo nos relata distintas historias, algunas vivencias con sus pacientes, otras del pasado, pero cada una con una reflexión o mensaje.

Me gustó mucho la verdad, mientras lo leía, pensaba que acertado todo esto, a veces nosotros mismos nos complicamos tanto la vida, y solemos terribilizar todo, (palabra la cual uso mucho en cada capítulo del libro), para hacernos ver y entender que nada puede ser tan terrible como nos lo imaginamos.

Hay cosas que suceden por algo y otras que no, pero no por eso nos vamos a amargar la vida, si no te gusta algo, no significa que sea malo, hay que tratar de buscarle siempre el sentido a todo, por algo se nos presenta.

Este libro consta de 23 capitulos, cada uno con una importante reflexión, y ejemplos de cómo podemos visualizar la vida de otra forma, de cómo solemos terribilizar todo, sin enfocarnos en lo más importante que es nuestra salud mental.

Nadie es perfecto, ni nosotros, ni los demás

Que tan acertada es esta frase que nos enfatiza aquí este psicólogo, y es que es así, nos enfocamos en ser perfectos, en buscar la perfección en lo que hacemos, que nos olvidamos por completo de disfrutar del proceso, de vivirlo cómo debería ser.

Prohibido quejarse

Conozco de personas que se la pasan en esto, quejándose por todo, nunca están conformes, confieso yo también suelo hacerlo, pero no me enfrascó en ello (creo jajajaja), que sentido tiene quejarse tanto, cómo si eso cambiará en algo las cosas, al contrario sólo te amargas la existencia, e incluso la de los demás, porque tienen que escuchar tus quejas.

Cómo dije suceden cosas que no podemos controlar y otras que sí, tú actitud por ejemplo, eso puedes buscar controlar, porque está en tus manos, no depende de nadie más, sólo de tí; por eso ahora solo respiro y me mantengo en calma, alejada de todo aquello que perturbe mi paz, porque la prioridad siempre debe ser nuestra Paz Mental.

De eso se trata este libro, de darte esa pequeña reflexión, esa otra forma de ver la vida, y de todo lo que nos sucede, de trabajar en nuestra salud mental, de aceptarte y aceptar a los demás como son; podemos sugerirles cómo cambiar, pero la decisión es de cada uno.

Ojalá muchos leyeran este libro, sobre todo esas personas que se la pasan quejándose, y viendo lo malo en todo, pienso que seríamos todos diferentes y veríamos lo que nos sucede cómo un pequeño tropiezo, pero no es el fin del mundo, y que todo en esta vida tiene solución.

Perder el miedo a la Soledad

A veces por no querer quedarnos solos, por necesitar una pareja que nos acompañe, nos aferramos a personas que nos hacen daño, a ideas falsas que nos traen, nos muestran, nos cegamos, y nos vemos más allá de la realidad, y ya cuando queremos salir de ese círculo vicioso y tóxico, tiende a ser un poco tarde.

De allí la famosa frase, MEJOR SOLOS QUE MAL ACOMPAÑADOS, en este mundo tan corrompido, tan frívolo, y cruel, con personas que solo piensan en ellas mismas, tan egoístas, definitivamente, la soledad se vuelve nuestra mejor compañera; no todo el mundo es malo, es cierto, y aunque los buenos debemos ser más, muchos no piensan asi, y se dejan llevar por el mal.

FRASES PUNTUALES, QUE VEREMOS EN ESTE LIBRO

Nadie necesita a nadie, asi que tampoco necesitamos la aprobación de los demás	Es mejor sugerir, que exigir el cambio en los demás.

Cometer fallos es normal y positivo, de los errores aprendemos cosas	La felicidad no depende de logros o situaciones ideales, sino de nuestra salud mental