Hello, dear book-loving friends, it is a pleasure for me to share a new post with this wonderful community. On this occasion, I’d like to introduce you to another book, Fall in Love with Yourself, which encourages us to reflect on self-love and self-esteem.
Fall in Love with Yourself, written by Walter Riso, is a book aimed at people who do not value themselves and have not learnt to love themselves. It is also aimed at all those who feel trapped by the norms, beliefs and traditions dictated by society and have forgotten how to see and love themselves.
The author leads us to reflect on the fact that we must love ourselves in order to love others in a balanced way. From childhood, we learn to look after our physical bodies. We are taught everything to do with personal hygiene, to look after our appearance, and to pay attention to every detail so we can function in society. Over time, we begin to neglect our mental health and the care of our psyche. All of this leads us to reflect on whether we are doing the right thing with our children: are we teaching them to love themselves in a balanced way?
We must engage in deep introspection that allows us to see ourselves, to get to know ourselves, so that we can learn to love ourselves. Only then can we boost our self-esteem, which leads us to a better balance with the world around us. Loving ourselves deeply enables us to view our surroundings in a positive light, making it possible to achieve our goals in a proactive manner.
The author invites us to fall in love with ourselves, to look at ourselves with love and acceptance. By learning to love and value ourselves, we will know how much love we should give to others. When we shower others with love in a toxic way, we are revealing our own emotional shortcomings.
The author also emphasises that we must view ourselves with high self-esteem, whilst at the same time recognising our abilities and strengths and leaving our ego behind. Furthermore, if we do not love ourselves, if we do not enjoy our own company, and if we do not value or accept ourselves, how can we expect others to see us through loving eyes?
In this regard, the author points out that the image we have of ourselves depends on the information we have accumulated through the experiences we have had and the people we have socialised with. This allows us to create an internal model—whether accurate or not—which is what we use to face the world, as human beings tend to cling to the old beliefs we have cultivated over the years. However, we can drive the changes needed to eradicate the beliefs entrenched in our minds, and although it may prove very difficult, it is not impossible.
In his book, Walter Riso argues that there are four pillars of self-esteem, which are: developing a positive self-concept, a positive self-image, the ability to improve oneself, and a sense of self-efficacy. This is the path to self-love, without losing the capacity for self-reflection and introspection.
I hope you enjoyed the book I’ve shared with you today, ‘Fall in Love with Yourself’. I look forward to seeing you soon with a new post.
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