The male guilt

Many men can't come out openly to talk against rape because of the guilt we carry.

I've made moves on a girl, more than 3 times to point were she raised her eyebrows and exclaimed Ebingo!!.

I apologized, and carried my blue balls home.

If I find myself in a court for sexual assault, I will plead guilty before they tell me my offences. I know them. I carry them with me. It is guilt, I know.

But here is my message. What I was never told by those who raised me, I read in books, good books and even bad ones.

I read The game, Rational Male and the Mystery Method with a working misogynistic filter, because these are old books and have a tendency to fight for some form of supremacy. But you might not find the information there anywhere else.

I read Art of seduction, but it is not very very practical. But the theory behind it is good.

I Read the chapters in Kevin Hart's I can't make this up-- that talk about dating.

I Read the chapters in Trevor Noah's Born a Crime-- that talk about dating.

I followed ToddV dating, School Of Life and Wingmam TV on YouTube.

Truth is, we hardly have older men talking about the right thing to do.

You have to educate yourself about it.

This is only just prof of the upbringing problem we are trying to do away with.

If you grew up like me then you and your father must have discussed every topic but all your information about dating was from random people. So I guess men aren't the victims, but we suffer from cluelessness.

The first thing the Rational Male tried to debunk was that saying “you can't understand women” this is something even women say. So how do you expect men to try? You already killed our interest in dealing with an issue before we could imagine a solution.

Wingwoman talk about the different levels of escalation, from hand holding to sex.

So what if she says no? Don't be that guy to trigger her worse emotions. Hate, fear, anger and anxiety.

After reading those books, I learnt “verbal moves” save you a lot of embarrassment.

We have the responsibility to educate ourselves as men. Because you don't want to be part of the failing society.

Are you part of the solution or are you part of the disease?

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