A short story to catch my point:
I have a pigeon,Tolu is my dear pigeon friend.
Although she happily ignores me, I take her as my friend and she does not seem to mind.
I try to click her pictures from time to time, she reluctantly says
"Ughh no paparazzi please!"
and walks away. Ignoring me.
Tolu recently gave birth and more than her, I have been way too excited.
After all, I might have become a voluntary uncle.
However, Tolu is just as typical as my mom.
She does not want to leave her children's side and move even an inch.
I have observed this mentality in all moms including mine- anything and everything wrong will happen to their kid when and only when they are not around.
Maybe this is taught in the "mom training".
**
In my city, Port-Harcourt, the current mood is festive.
And as a compulsory part of our enjoyment,we are feeding ourselves with whatever and whichever edible delight comes our way.
Another very important part of the festivities is cleaning and my mother makes sure that I contribute to more than my best in this matter in the household.
It was the 50th time that I was dusting the very clean and shiny window pane that was still dirty according to my mother when I glanced at Tolu again.
She was sitting with her tiny ones.
I found the scene too cute and called my mom, pretended to be a pigeon baby, and tapped around her.
She looked at me with a blank face, maybe thinking to herself-
Oh lord, what on earth have I raised!
However, after a minute of awkward silence, she said
"Maybe she does not want to go out and fetch food, leaving her children behind"
**
Motherly instincts I tell you, are godly.
Be it a bird or a human-both identity as mothers.
I have never been an animal lover,never will be.
However,I have always not very proudly been an oversensitive kid.
**
While I stuff my face with everything tasty this Christmas, I also wanted Tolu to have a happy festival.
I took some rice grains and a bowl of water and placed them on my windowpane.
Ahh! I feel like a good aunt now.
Happy Christmas Tolu!
Feeling connected makes me feel alive.
Although Tolu might not even be aware of my existence, loving her and her little kids makes me feel alive.
Other things that makes me feel alive:
When I am with the Nature,
The nature, being any landscape or just plants, I feel refreshed and alive. It has so much of positivity which surrounds me too.
When I am with someone special, I always feel alive. There is a lot special about him that makes me alive even in the worst times.
When I am at a religious place which is not suffocating me, I feel alive. These places have a lot of positivity which refreshes us totally. I love being there therefore.
When I am listening to a very beautiful song, I feel alive. Bollywood songs like Raabta, Humsafar, Dekh Lena are few examples.
Silence, Playlist that matches my vibe at the moment, in a cozy place, reading a book. ( What's better than a good book and your favourite music? )
Good food with something I love to watch.(I can't eat if something is not playing on in my phone).
A long walk alone(Sometimes with my favourite people too) with my headphones on.
Deep conversations (I'M not a “ small talk” person )
They're all just pretty normal things, but this is who I am , I find happiness in little things, it's always been the little things.