The purpose of marriage is for unity. The Bible says that this is the reason why two people will come together and become one. Not one physically but in the sense that they'll share a common goal. That is why another name or term for spouse is partner.
A partner is someone who assists the other to achieve a common goal. If our partner does not have the same values as we do and is not concerned in helping us and contributing to us achieving our goals and visions then maybe such person is not meant for us.
Knowing who we are destined to spend the rest of our lives with requires seeking counsel from God. We don't do it blindly, or conclude about it based on physical appearances or emotions. This is why a lot of marriage shatter later on in the course if time.
But when we pay attention to the spirit and what it is saying we make the best decisions that we won't regret. Marriage is enjoyable when we are with the right person. But when we are with the wrong person we have no choice but to manage it out pull out from it.
