After doing my research, I came to the conclusion that there is a need for more selfish people in this world. Only a few people could be said to have ever been truly selfish. However, people still say that everyone is selfish. To me, it is not even close to be true. We actually need more selfish people in this world. Are you surprised?
The real problem the world have today is that only a few people are genuinely selfish. We have misunderstood the meaning of the term "selfish" because of what the dictionary said it's.
To be truly selfish means you do what pleases you today and always; otherwise you will harm yourself. If you think about it, you will see that what we always call selfishness can be actually referred to self-destruction.
Someone who is selfish think more about their own interests, reputation and well being. A person like that looks for happiness, hoy, and peace of mind without minding what others say. Their desires is to be valued and remembered long after they died. Now, tell me how many people or organizations you know that has achieved that. If you know any, can you say they were truly selfish or self-destructive?
We all need to learn how to be truly selfish and start acting in our own interests from now on.
How to Be Truly Selfish
Become the best version of yourself
Many people go through life without ever having the time to think about how they were created. We waste our natural endearment, our talents and passions. Our very true self remain hidden, while we continue living copied lives and never had to experience the joy, peace, and the fulfilment that comes from being genuinely oneself.
Sometimes, being isolated give you the chance to discover your true self. Not every one has the time for this. It looks like most people don't love themselves to the extent of isolating themselves to pursue true selfishness in a deliberate manner.
Such process is like digging for treasure to discover your true self. Our inner nature is hidden, and we cannot see on the surface because it's spiritual. It takes time and effort to map out, dig up, refine, and discard the things that are not necessary for us to discover who we truly are.
We must move away from material distraction. Money, status, game and possessions must be done away with before you can be able to find out your real value in life. If you try to save your life, you will lose it, but you can sacrifice you will have your life. You can only go up by letting go of some certain things. This is the deeper meaning of selfishness.
To help others is selfishness
Helping others is a selfish act in reality. If it is your habit to be always going out of your way to help others, then you are doing yourself a favor. Helping others requires you to challenge yourself beyond the ordinary. It takes someone with a trained mind to realize that by serving others you are actually serving your own self interest.
If you have never genuinely help someone then you have never been truly selfish. True selfishness involves self sacrifice for the benefit of other people, and it makes you happy when the people you helped are grateful. This doesn't mean we should start donating or giving our money to people just to appear selfish, but rather, I am talking about developing a cultural shift in mindset. One that encourages more self sacrifice for others.
Devoting time to learn new skills is selfishness
Honestly, many people don't love themselves enough to think about their future. Instead they are so full of the here and now, engaging in activities that has little or no long term benefits. You fear your friends may leave you behind, instead of using the time to develop new skills in isolation, you are fighting over who to follow you on Facebook and how many views you get on WhatsApp status. By withdrawing yourself from the crowd and investing in yourself by learning new behind the scenes is an act of true selfishness.
The time you spend away from others, learning and growing in secret, allows you to discover your true potential, thereby developing yourself in ways that bring more value to others than just popularity. This is what I called true selfishness.
It means chosing how to live your life, who you will associate with, and how you can add value to others. The time you spend away from public view while developing yourself in secret is pure selfishness. The greatest act of selfishness is denying oneself of immediate pleasure for long term future benefits that enrich not only your life but also of others.
In this sense, the more selfish you are, the better your personal development as a human being.
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