It's a TOTE, in fact. What we do it TEST-OPERATE-TEST-EXIT, we keep testing the best decisions for ourselves. It might seem like we are self-sabotaging, but here it is === we're just making the right choices each moment for ourselves. Each choice stands for a certain moment and when we decide to do something is because more than 51% us trust that we're doing the right thing. So, it might be just allowing ourselves to do other things than what we initially wanted, but that is because our subconscious mind or maybe even the conscient one tells us that we need to do something else in that specific moment. There is only feedback that we offer to ourselves.
RE: Re-Write Your Desires and Act! Be there For Yourself - I'll Be Here