Being a man and already having a family, everything in life changed.
There will be responsibilities that we need to do which we don't have when we're still single.
The initiation of a man without orders from the wife is a must.

Since the day that I became a father, I learned the changes in my life will start even during the pregnancy stage of my wife. When we learned that we were pregnant, I admit that I was afraid. Not afraid because of the things that I can't do anymore but because of the thought that I will be a good enough father to my future child or not? My wife looked at me intently and I saw the disappointment in her eyes when she noticed that I was just staring at her when she went out of our comfortable room and gave me the pregnancy test. She thought that I am not happy at that time but the truth is I was. I am just dazed for seconds because a lot of things get into my head. The plans and everything for my future child to come. I immediately hugged my wife when she said I was not happy because she thought I am not. I told her to prepare for herself coz we're going to the Ob-gyne clinic in the next town. She was even hesitant that time and seems watching my actions. I told her seriously that I am really happy and asked her if I will be a good father and if my salary will be enough for us. But she answered that the salary is not the point of discussion or the important thing about having a child, it's the moral support of a husband to the wife and the child. She also told me that I will surely be a great father to our child. And when we heard the heartbeat of our child during an ultrasound, it was time that I told myself that I'll be a father soon and I will be a good father to him.

Since then, I see to it that I'll manage my time and make sure to be there with my wife when she needs me during her pregnancy until the delivery. She underwent CS and I was fortunate to prepare for the fee in the hospital. As long as my wife and son are safe, money is nothing. And the day our son was born, the duty of being a father started. No hangouts with friends and minimized playing online games.

And now that our son was already two years old, my wife told me to hang out with my co-teachers. She was telling me that before when our son was still a baby but I just don't like hanging out with others without my family. I mean, I don't usually hang out with others coz I prefer to stay at home. But now, since I am working already, I need to jive and have bonding time with co-workers to build good relationships with them so that I will not encounter bad things between me and them. I need to blend in so that they won't think bad about me.

My wife wants me to hangout with my co-workers. She knew that I don't be friend with people who have vices in life. As long as there's no liquor in the table she's fine with that unless we were in our house. So, since then I gave time for myself to hangout with my friends with my wife's consent.

Bonding time with friends.

Night out with the boys.

I have two co-teachers (male) who's close to me. I mean, I treated them as my brothers and bestfriend. The other one is same age with me while the other one is older than us for years but he don't have yet a family same with the other one. We both vibe for a certain reasons. Well, actually I don't know the reason why we're close. We sometimes have this so called "boy's night out". But the truth is, I and Sir Kim will like to go with Sir Partner because he likes to treat us foods. Well his salary is big enough and he don't have a family yet to sustain that's why maybe he likes to treat us. But I really appreciate him and his teaching towards me and Sir Kim. It's because we learned a lot from him as he was on service for a long time. And I admit, he's one of the reason why I like teaching now. Having them both in school made my day not boring especially during checking outputs and computing grades because we always stay in the same room. We tend to have an over time in Sir Partner's room doing paperworks. And during our night out, we just doing food trip and videoke in one of the dining place here in our hometown. Just fortunate because they also don't drink hard alcohol or liquor like me. I do drink liquor but it happens occasionally and depends on my mood, I just don't like the feeling after intaking alcohol. That's why if they like to to drink something, we'll just order those ladies drink with less alcohol content. Amd our boy's night out will happen during weekend or Friday night because there's no work the next day. All in all, having them two gave me great bond.

Good friendship with them.

I also have co-teacher friends (female). I able to have a friend because Sir Kim is a friendly one maybe because he's still looking for his 'The one'. And as a supporting friend, I will be by his side. But unfortunately, some of our co-workers are already married. And during our bonding time, those who are single won't come and I can't help but to cheer my friend that better luck next time. Chilling after a long week of paperworks with them helps me release stress. Our kind of friendship is trully helpful for me. Because they're older than me and all I've got from them are good advices about marriage and parenting while Sir Kim is laughing beside me. I just don't know if he's laughing because of married life or because he's already afraid of getting married, haha. But my friend really likes to have his own family already.

My personal thought

Not because you're married or have a family already, you don't have any right to have fun with others. As long as you know the limitation and knew your priorities in life, you are good. And always remember, once you have a family already, the consent of your behalf is a MUST. I mean, we should always see to it that our partners in life will know where and whom we hang out. As a husband, it's not being "Under De Saya", it's a respect to our wives. That's what I always asked my wife if it's okay if I'll go with my friends. I also don't do that in chat. Like for example, if my friends will tell me we're going to have a bonding time after our working hours, I see to it that I go home at 5 pm and asked permission to my wife before I got to the place where we are going to hang out. I just don't like to make my wife think bad thoughts why I was late and all, unless I am busy at school coz I always send her a message with a documentation of course. I don't wait for her to chat me why I am late or so, I will just sent her first. That's what I am doing as respect to her and to prevent her from stressing herself with bad thoughts of me getting late.

They said, "happy wife, happy life!", I want to have a happy life that's why I want my wife to be happy. Her mood will always affect the whole family, I know some of you here (mommies) knew what I mean.
-----> Teacher Jeff 🧑‍🏫