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Sorry is a simple word but it is so difficult to say. It takes a strong person to say it, a person who accepts that he was wrong, a person who is willing to accept the consequences of his fault or sin.
Sorry is also a powerful word. It can repair broken relationship, it can heal heart breaks, it can makes someone smile again. Saying sorry will make someone cry because of joy and it can make someone happy knowing that someone learn or know how to accept a fault.
In some cases, some people tend to say I'm sorry even it's not their fault just to make everything okay.
Saying Im sorry can be done in different ways. I will list them below and these list are based only from my observation and experiences.
Saying I'm sorry in words
This is the very common way of saying I'm sorry. Talking to someone face to face, looking at eyes to eyes, or holding ones hand while saying I'm sorry. Some also said it directly, I'm sorry, it's my fault. I'm sorry for what I've done. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you and many more words with I'm sorry.
Doing this takes enough courage to tell someone you love how you are sorry for doing or telling something that hurts his/her feeling. It takes someone who is strong enough to admit the fault.
Saying I'm sorry through actions
There are people whose love language is not in words same as through in saying I'm sorry. Some people tend to say it not in words but in actions.
Some couple who have misunderstanding in some simple things or worst having a so called war for different reason and yet they don't know how to said I'm sorry. They are saying I'm sorry by hugging and silently it works like someone said sorry literally.
In our case, both I and my husband didn't say sorry in words. I don't know why but I can hardly utter those words because before I can say it, my tears will fall down and my lips seems to have convulsion, lol and I cannot speak at all. We both do it in action. If I am at fault, I will just hug him behind. Because he is still angry, I won't expect that he will move. He is just there like a wood and not moving at all. But if he move and start talking about it, it means that he forgave me. It means I can sleep peacefully.
On the otherhand, if he is at fault he won't say sorry and he won't hug me behind but instead he will do something for me. One of the example is, we had our misunderstanding in the afternoon. No one is talking, the silence filled the house, we are just talking to our son or we will just answer a question. We will do our own task and the mouth is zipped. Until a dinner comes and he put rice in my plate, give me viamd or soup. When he did it, I considered it as he was saying sorry to me. I felt that the heavy heart now becomes okay.
If we have misunderstanding in the morning, he will leave for work without leaving any word. If he comes home and talking to me or sharing what he had in a day it means we are now okay.
I don't know if it works for you but for me it really works. Anyway, those came from a simple misunderstanding. I don't know how to react if a sin or strong mistake have been made.
Saying I'm sorry through gifts
This is the last one I will share. Some people can't say the words I'm sorry or can do it in actions but they can show it by sending something or a gift or a so called peace offering.
Some will send a food, a gift, a flower, a chocolates or anything that he/she loves and put a I'm sorry note with it. This seems simple but still doing it means you are also sorry. Accepting those gifts is a simple way of accepting someone's sorry too. We also know that someone won't accept it and might mean he/she is still angry towards the person.
Those are the different ways of saying I'm sorry. But still talking about what happened is still very important. Communication is still the key. The problem cannot be solved without discussing it.
If you have sinned or hurt someone don't forget to say sorry and ask forgiveness. If you don't have the courage to do it, learn to pray and ask God's guidance to do it.
If someone asked forgiveness from you, learn to forgive.
We are imperfect and we have mistakes day by day. Let us not forget to ask forgiveness to the Lord and I know He is willing to forgive us.
Thank you for reading.
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