I almost didn't write for this topic too as I thought I didn't have any good enough relation with it to share a view on it but something came up on my mind this morning after reading the challenge post again... This time, I thought more on it on the personal aspect that was emphasized on. Truth be told, I'm not sure I've experienced dominance from a distance aside reading or hearing stories about them but I could remember one I had personally.
And again, I've always seen dominance as a negative character that shouldn't be found in one's personality. Maybe it's because I don't have it or I'm too weak to be around such persons so I never liked it but that changed when I had a direct encounter with one of them, the encounter was more though as we became friends and are still friends till today.
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From the very first time I got in contact with her when we were being introduced as same course mates, I sensed that dominant aura. Yeah, I could tell almost immediately when one is like that because I am the correct opposite and I tend to repel from such persons even though not obviously. But somehow, she seemed to have hers under total control and I find that so attractive and powerfully irresistible. I bet I would have said I fell in love romantically if she was a guy lol.
Let me share something I thought when I remembered her, so many people might take dominance to be an alpha character that's known for being abusive, arrogant, angry or dismissive (well, that may be true for some) but if they'd combine the positive traits of generosity, humility and some others... A compelling character is inevitable. My friend made me think that as I began to get close to her and learn more into her dominant personality.
My Dominant friend with her compelling character
Most dominants would want to impose in you what to do and what not to do, my friend does it but then the difference is that "She never does that to make you do what won't benefit you in anyway". Her dominance in that aspect has helped my reserved self gain more into her world than many would have if they had no such friend.
The humility within her dominance self is the most attractive to me, she kept proving to me that dominant people could also be less dominant sometimes, like they could have it in total control or in check. I can't remember anytime with her that I felt like I'm being controlled, forced or acted against my wish. If there's any, I benefited from it because she would always come off strong but with an amazing reason.
She brought a positive light to what dominance is to me and I respect her so much for that. It's hard to control her, to deceive her, to take advantage of her or at most play with her emotions because use does that better when she doesn't like you lol. Let me not even talk much into her generosity, she's amazing in that.
Looking at dominance positively is when the dominant one takes dominance in the positive things and use them to both their advantage and for others to benefit too. I'd say the world's most interesting people are the dominant ones considering how much power they display.
In the way she dresses, the way she speaks, the way she handles important issues and even her manner of approach to some discussions, she showed dominance but in a positive light and that is super compelling to me.
What do you say about such a dominant one? For me, I'm happy to have her as a friend.
