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As humans, we are faced with a lot of uncertainties about life in general. There is no guarantee that we will get that dream job or the life we want. There is uncertainty about our happiness even in our relationships.
The relationship between a couple can be an admirable one from a distance. However, for couples in the relationship, there is a lot of uncertainty about the essence and meaning they find in the relationship and with one another.
In Nigeria here the rate of divorce keeps increasing. The surprising thing is most of these marriages end as soon as they start, which begs the question: what can we say happened in between them?
Finding the right one. The first uncertainty before venturing into a relationship is finding the right partner. First of all, how do we consider all the variables and how do we know that we are not making a mistake with this person. At what point does it become clear?
Now when we can answer that question, we move on to determine if we want to spend the rest of our lives with this person. Knowing they will be a huge part of our existence. The uncertainty of the future kicks in.
I often wonder why people leave their marriages so early. Is it because they did not do their due diligence? When did they conclude that this person was bad for them?
In my opinion, marriage is not something that should be done just for the excitement of it, or because one is pressured into it. Now if a person took his or her time to study their partner, why then do they leave the marriage in less than a year?
Some people took time to study their partners but miss certain red flags. And sometimes the threat is external like family and friends.
You find two people who decide to be together but family gets in the way. This often puts the young couple in a difficult position to choose between the family they've known all their life and their spouse.
No one can ever fully answer all these questions. I think a few things one can do is to be practical, seek advice from people who have been there, and learn from their experience .
There is no formula to a successful marriage, but we can all make it work if we try.
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