I have lived approximately three decades on this planet. Although I do not factor that when considering my experience in life, it does play a key role. However, I have learnt most of the things I know through my experiences and those of the people around me and at this point I will be highlighting a few of the important ones.
STAND FIRST
This is probably the most important lesson I have learnt all through my life but unfortunately haven't been able to practise. I come from a benevolent family and giving is part of our culture.
I grow up in a house filled with relatives and even strangers. My parents opened their home to as many people as they could even when it wasn't so convenient.
However, I have seen this need to always help ruin so many people--even my family at some point. A cousin of mine also made this same mistake recently. It was so hurtful because I thought he should have known better. He had several life lessons from close family members to learn from.
I think the best gift you can give anyone is a better you. It is often best to give from a position of strength. Most people never amount to anything because they are always giving when they should be building.
TWO IS BETTER
In this part of the world, most men assume the role of the breadwinner and their wives live in the shadows. It seems like a healthy mix until things start to take a u-turn for the man. I have seen this happen several times and it is a mistake I don't ever want to make with my spouse.
I want my spouse to be all that she can be and even better. This is probably one of the best things about my current relationship--my spouse can match me on the same level financially and we both can make anything happen. We don't have so much per se but we can achieve certain things that were impossible individually a couple of months back.
Asides from relationships, we as a species tend to do better when we collaborate. So learn to work with people. Share your dreams with those that are important to you and seek guideline. It is often better when you have an array of perspectives to work with.
HAVE A GOOD SUPPORT SYSTEM
At some point, you will realize that people don't become rich or happy without a proper support system. The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.
I am at a point in my life where my secure because of the value of my network. It is not up there yet, but I have seen some big changes in the last 6months. This means better opportunities and exposure not just for me but also for the people in my circle.
BE A GENUINE HUMAN BEING.
For some reason, I attract some of the quality people in my sphere. People easily connect with me and I guess it's because I am my genuine self (whatever that means).
I do have my flaws--many even, but I believe being true to yourself, treating people with the kindness and respect they deserve, makes life a lot easier.
In conclusion, these are some of the important life lessons I have learnt and they have made my life a whole lot better. I hope you've learnt a thing or two from this post. If you have other lessons you have learnt in your life please share them in the comment section.