One beautiful winter morning I got up from bed to start my new day. It all seemed like going quite fine until I got inside the bus, a public transport. I was not much attentive as I was about to do something but I suddenly forgot about it and I was lost in what I was supposed to do. Meanwhile, I took out my phone and started playing when the incident happened.
The driver uncle in a harsh tone spitted, "tor mare chdi/ I f*k your mom" out of the window into the oblivion, to whom he intended to hear but they might or might have not heard. Now, luckily on the bus, there were no children and I was the only female. I sat hearing his words and didn't know if I should ask him does he know what he sprouted. Or should I ask him if he is aware of the meaning? It is not that I was alone that is making me resistant, cause after a few minutes more ladies and a kid joined in the bus. But even then, I am not being able to ask him.
Maybe it is because of the answer he will deliver to me that I am still afraid to say a word. Not afraid, resistant. Should I take a survey and collect data on this kind of behavior among adults or children or like every group together? While I was thinking about it all being in a dilemma when I took a glance at the man, our eyes met, and still, I was confused as to ask or not to. What do I have to lose but, will I be able to explain to him what he did was wrong? Now, should I?
It is bothering me a lot. My mind is in a disturbed state and I am not well aware of what should I do or say. I observed this kind of behavior not only in drivers but also in an educated mature man to a nimble child studying in class 3. It is common in all ages but more in males than in females, from my observation which can be wrong. Alongside, it is used as a common slang where women are deliberately insulted and harassed, at least that is how I felt. How do others feel? What do other men feel about it? As I am women I might be biased, people can claim, so I want to know what others think about it with respect to if they actually respect women or they don't.
This patriarchal cycle has been going on forever now and to be honest, I am tired. It is wrong that men are given all the pressure, cause now most women tend to ease their pressure. Women work too, yes, in many cases women are still dependent on men but what is there to take lead? Is there any necessity of being arrogant and holding the gear?
Immaturity is considered to be a gown of children and as one grows the level of immaturity is to decrease as they step into adulthood and start to become mature. Maturity is sexy, at least that is what I feel. It is a gown which makes you more elegant and childlike at the same time. It keeps your immaturity in check and makes you act like a mature person. It is stigmatized that maturity means you become serious, but that is never the case.
If you are a man who is reading this, how do you feel when someone is using such slang which insults women? Do you use them too? Do you think it can be ignored because it was said while in anger? Do you think that sprouting slang is a part of being immature? Everything once said is meant. If not, by using it repetitively for sure it is what is meant.
I have encountered this around 2-3 weeks ago. Sharing it now, as I finally got time to. It was in my draft and I forgot about it as time passed. I wrote this on my phone to ease what I was feeling and at the same time to address it to you all, who might help me out in finding my query on it than being humiliated, I chose to study on it quietly with you all.
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