We meet people everyday and sometimes we meet someone we connect on the same level and we can feel the chemistry and attraction growing. You talk with them everyday and they give you good vibes. Suddenly, you do more than just a few seconds calls to hours on phone calls, lots of text messages and facetime, checking up on each other. Everyday You look forward to reading their text messages, chatting with them or talking to them on the phone. The sound of their voice makes you happy and euphoric, like you are floating in the sky.
You become very attached. You start calling each other endearing names. Love songs become your favourite genre of music. You know you are falling but you cannot help it so you keep falling. Even though it's scary and frightening with you out of your depth, you don't let go. You've become so attached, it feels like a match made in heaven and the assumption sets in making you believe that a relationship has started until you hear them call someone else the same special name. You discover they pay just the same amount of attention to another. You discover everything you feel for them is what another feels for them or perhaps even more. This leaves you feeling like the fool.
Your heart breaks into tiny pieces. Your genre of music changes to heartbreak songs. You wallow in self pity and wonder where you got it wrong. You go back and read all the text messages you exchanged and wonder how someone can be so sweet yet so heartless. This was my story. No happy ending for an undefined relationship.
A lot of people out there are victims of this, being in a relationship without a label. Defining a relationship helps one understand what you mean to each other and what exactly you expect from each other. If you are looking for a healthy relationship, understand the need to ask the almighty question, "what are we?"
Don't waste effort, time, money and emotions on relationships that have no future or may never grow beyond friendship. Once you know what you are to each other, your path becomes clearer. Save yourself a whole lot of embarrassment. You may just be doing community service.
The heart is very fragile, so handle its matter carefully.