Have you ever pondered about family dissension? That is, people who grew up in the same house, eating and doing everything together but only to grow up and become enemies such that one can even kill the other for a selfish gain.
This is a topic of serious concern which actually needs to be preached to all men and perhaps most important to the growing children in families so that they wouldn't allow the mistake of their elders to repeat in their own days.
However, I feel it is even going to be worst in our own days because of the advent of technology which has limited communications among siblings in the family these days. Then I wonder how their adulthood is going to be.
Talking about the family, it is as elementarily defined, the smallest unit of the society which comprises people related by blood or adoption. In the recent years, it has been redefined including a sense of unity among a group pf people by religion, social interest and so on. However, in the scope of this writing, it is basically in reference to the elementary definition which refers to the blood or adoption relationship.
The family is a beautiful institution where the human life receives its first formation. We all came from a family either of one or two. One implies a person who comes from a single parent family and two from that of a two parent family.
For some, they come from a family that is made up of more than one child and thus have siblings with whom they grew. About growing up, people have different experiences. For some, they grew up with their immediate families while for some others, they grew up with extended families. These are realities in which the human life is found on earth.
Particularly talking about those families comprised of two or more children and where all the children grew up together in the same home, I tend to question the cause of dissensions among these siblings at their adulthood. These were persons who lived "hapily" attending school together, playing together and doing so many things together. In fact, they could fight for each other while they were growing up.
But now, they fight each other as grown ups and can even wish for the death of another. Of course, this is not in a general sense but only in particular reference to the several cases we have in our society today. And the question is why?
It is no doubt that the adulthood come with a lot of responsibilities which may make one to be over possessed with the longing for an elevation of one's social status, thus, being rich and having a high reputation in the society. These are quests that could make one to live an egoistic life and therefore anyone who may in any way stand as a threat to one's achievements becomes an enemy.
This can be a reason for the enmity among family mmembers but I don't find it to be the root problem. I feel the root of the problem is in the process of growing up. A lot of children grew up in homes where the parents have favorites. For instance, Sara is the favorite of Daddy while David is the favorite of Mummy and because daddy is much richer than mummy, he gets so much gifts for Sara while David gets nothing.
Or in the family where one child could be disciplined but the other is like a gold that shouldn't be touched perhaps because that one is more intelligent and gets better grades at school
Eventhough at childhood, these children didn't express any hatred for one another but these registered in their minds and the seed of hatred was sown which grew with time. The love that should exist among them was never deep rooted and at adulthood when everyone became responsible for their lives, they decided to live only for themselves and their dreams and not concern themselves with the affair of the other. Behold where the divides started.
What are the implications of this divide to the human society? It makes the society worst and foster disunity. This is because it is from the family that the individuals make the society and if one has grown up with negative sentiments in one's life, these transfer to the society and can hinder the peaceful existence of humans.
What is the way forward? This is a questions that is to be confronted by every family and very importantly by interning parents. Families should be havens of peace, love and unity. Parents must be attentive to every child in the family and love all equally. They should endeavour to make the children love themselves and be united.
These things are established in little things like, waiting for each other to eat together, going to school together and not returning alone, going to shopping together, playing games together amd so on and so forth.
In this world that is dominated by technological advancements parents must find the best way to foster the spirit of family bond and infact make it a priority.
At the other hand, siblings must learn selflessness. Each of us must learn that we are rational persons and we realize our being by our rational relationship with the other. Thus, when we do good to others, we also do good to ourselves. This implies that we shouldn't fold our hands and allow evil to ravage our existence.
Let us end the divides and build a more seren society where love leads. See others as you and do to others what you would want done to you.
Thanks for reading