So much has changed about me. I now do a lot of things not because I was told to do them but because I need to do them (this has always been my goal! I guess I’m moving in the right path). I don’t need anyone to tell me to do what I have to for me to do it, do I? No. It’s tiring to them and even to me. There is nothing freer to me as doing the things I have to do when I have to do them without anyone telling me first.
I feel not only free but fulfilled and willing to do more. As someone that has struggled with a lot of things as a girl child who lived with her dad and her siblings, I knew I had to learn a lot of things on my own and I’d be a fool if I always want to wait for someone to come to me and tell me this is what I need to do before I do it. Oh yes! I still struggle with doing what I have to do what I have to do a lot of times.
But then, there has been great improvement and there are a few ways I try to stay true to myself and in turn I stay true to those around me, which is what this post will be all about. For so many, freedom is doing something that makes them happy even if others are not happy about it or even if it hurts others. Well, I’m not a people pleaser myself but I believe anything that is worth doing is worth doing well. I see freedom as doing what is expected of me and not being wanted at any point. And even if I’m being wanted, it shouldn’t be for doing something bad.
My low key minimalist trick is to do to others what I want them to do to me. I don’t try to run away from the consequences of my actions. If there is anything I appreciate so much in this life, is the truth. If it’s because I’m told the truth that’s why I’m hurt, then so be it. I’m wrong means I’m wrong and if I’m right I’m right. I believe so much in sowing and reaping so it always gives me a great sense of freedom when I am responsible for my actions and I’m not trying to blame people for it.
As a minimalist who lives among people who don’t care about the things I care about, I always remind myself of the fact that the only person I have a good control over is myself. People won’t always understand me but I understand myself and by God's grace, I understand a little about some people.
With that knowledge, I try my best to focus on my actions rather than the actions of others. The only persons I can mind their actions to the point of wanting to hold them accountable are those that are really close to me but still, I try not to forget about myself being a potential cause to what might be going wrong.
I see minimalism as a way of life that is very much in-line with my faith and belief so, what keeps me going is just me trying to love people and love them genuinely. If I love them, I can easily know when it’s necessary to compromise and when not to. My aim of being a minimalist is to be intentional about my living and to live with every form of simplicity in all I do. And to always focus more on the value those things I have bring rather than the quantity.
And last but not least, I always try to be open to learning. As much as I know I might be right about something, I try my best to still keep an open mind no matter what. And that’s because I know that’s the only way I can learn and keep growing. The more I’m intentional about the things I do to people, how I love them and how I keep learning, the freer I become. The more I’m able to accept my faults when I’m wrong and overlook some little mistakes people make, the freer I am.
That’s it for me. Thank you so much for reading through. ❤️