Hello👋
I smiled when I saw the question below; Does minimalism have an influence on your sexual life, desire, choices, and connection?
I once wrote about a situation where I had to 'crawl' away from a newly started relationship because she was practically against the minimalist lifestyle. Not that we argued over it—no, we didn't. I just knew that our opposite lifestyles were going to choke me very badly if I had to continue.
The first day I got to her house, the house was scattered because she was arranging her many bags for a little trip to her hometown to visit her family. There were all manners of clothes, bags, and shoes on the floor, table, and bed.
"Do you sell bags and shoes?" I asked as I picked up some cartons of shoes on the chair and table. The cartons looked so new.
"Sell keh? They're mine," she responded boldly.
"All these are yours? When do you wear them to church? Because I know I haven't seen you with this colour of bag," I asked as I picked an ash bag that didn't look nice at all, at least to me.
*"You see this one, this one, that one, and those ones over there—I haven’t used them for many years,"* she said, making sure to point at different cartons of shoes and bags in various corners. "And some of them, I just used once and lost interest. I don’t know oooh! I’m just addicted to this lifestyle of buying and hoarding even though I don’t use them. And guess what? I have some orders arriving next weekend, which is one of the reasons I’m traveling home." Her explanation instantly reduced 20% of my interest in her.
When I suggested that she should gift them out if she’s not using them anymore, she frowned and boasted about the high amount of money she spent buying them. She said she couldn’t just dash them out like that.
I won’t lie—her opposite lifestyle was among the things that made me disappear from the scene of the relationship. I knew that I would keep telling her to stop buying or to gift out the items she wasn’t using, and we were going to keep having issues over that because my eyes would surely get sick seeing everywhere jam-packed.
Do you know the most interesting thing? The excessive possessions—the shoes and bags—were never bought with her own money. She got the money from billing her previous partners, and I was already being included as one of her sources of money to keep buying. Lol!
I know they say that a relationship or marriage is not necessarily meant for people who are 100% compatible. Yes, I know. But I centre my choice of partner on their lifestyle—especially a simple lifestyle.
Thanks for reading.
This is my entry to #Kiss prompt.
All photos use are mine