Hi everyone! Happy new month and weekend to you. I was going through a friend's blog and then I stumbled on this community. I really do love what's going on and happening here and I've decided to join. It's my first time of posting here and I'm glad to see you all and be here.
Life and the world at large is full of uncertainties, problems,troubles name it here and there. Most times it gets really tough and unbearable thereby making us uncomfortable but in all these, I have chosed PEACE AND HAPPINESS no matter what and I intend to maintain such till forever.
When I stumbled on this topic I was so happy and I couldn't hesitate to come drop my views. Few weeks ago I was so down because of what I got from a very close friend of mine. I was angry, devastated, worried and troubled and at some point I didn't know myself anymore but then sitting down to think about everything, I realized that there's really nothing and nobody is worth dying or killing yourself for so, I braced up, picked up my broken pieces and looked at the future and what life holds for me.
Having said all these, there are quite few and important things that keeps me going and makes me happy and they include:
Seeing movies: Yeah, I love seeing movies a lot. People close to me know actually that I don't joke with seeing movies and not just any kind of movie. I specialize on Nollywood movies and sometimes a little of Philippines. I learn alot from those movies about life and things to do and how to go about any thing or situation that wants to put you off, make you unhappy and peaceless if there's any word like that.
I do know that not everything you see in movies applies to real life but then there are still things that really help especially someone like me and asides that, their sense of fashion, intonations, actions and music is very important to me. So, when I feel unhappy and all of that, I quickly look for a nice film to watch and boom it takes my mind totally off about anything that happened. It may sound really weird but it has really been working for me honestly.
Baking: After my N.C.E program in college, A few months after that, on September last year to be precised, I went on a training on how to bake and I completed that training successfully without any complain whatsoever. Everyday of my life I'm happy I chosed that step and I achieved it. Baking is a really sweet thing to do, so when I'm unhappy I just pick up my materials if I had them or I buy things I need in the cakes and I get started.
Good enough I have been getting cake orders and jobs from people since I started baking, so, the thought of not wanting to disappoint any of my customers just overwhelmes my mind and then put me off about everything that made me sad. The baking skills to the decorations, designs and creativity are exactly what I think about and at the end of the day, I present something nice and good.
Singing and listening to music: I love music and a good one at that. Good enough I'm a singer in my church and I can comfortably sing all the parts but I specialize on the Alto part. It just feels good how music soothes my heart anytime I listen to it especially when I'm down. It has a way of reviving me and my spirit, making me refreshed and good. I have an Mp3 and I don't play without connecting my Bluetooth to it and it becomes so good to my ears.
Most times, I download songs from the internet and get it from people and I forget so when I turn to my music player, I just play them randomly and I shuffle them. The lyrics are so good and it really helps me when I'm down, it varies from gospel, to contemporary, r and b, hip hop, ragaee, name it. I just love music and it has been my friend since childhood.
Good food: Yeah good food is very important to me meaning I don't joke with food especially a good one at that. I would say that most of the times, unhappiness comes as a result of being hungry. It's always frustrating and very annoying. You might say it's not true but it sure works for me and it helps me 60% most times. Naija people will say "Try dey eat because wahala/problem no dey finish" meaning people should always try to eat because troubles and problems keeps coming every day.
Helping people: This also helps to take my mind off whatever it is that's bothering me. This is one prayer I pray every now and then. I love to help out and there's this joy I derive in doing that so assisting people and helping out really helps me a lot.
Good enough I have siblings who are in school and other children leaving around me who brings their homework and assignments for assistance and help and I gladly do so. Most times, I enjoy their company because they really crack my ribs and I'll laugh out so hard and forget about everything.
Compliments: I don't think there's anyone who doesn't like compliments cos as for me, I really do love it. It puts smiles on my face and reminds me that I can do even more better. The funny thing is that most of the times, I get compliments from people who I don't know and not close to in anyway, it usually feels so good and I love it.
Surprises/Gifts: I love Surprises and I love gifts especially when I don't request for them. It puts a very beautiful smile on my face. Few days ago, I got a huge amount of airtime and data from someone I didn't even expect it from. I was surprised and happy at the same time.
How I maintain inner peace without allowing external factors influence me
Peace is something that everyone should strive to have because it's just like happiness. It's a decision and a choice to make and it shouldn't be dependent on anything, anyone or anybody. No body owes you that apart from yourself and I have been doing so every damn time. What you want and who you are/represents oneself gives ones peace.
I unapologetically stick to myself, focus on things that are of ultimate and utmost importance to me. I refuse to be influenced by what people say about me or what they think of me. I intentionally know my worth and what I want and who I am, I refuse to settle for less and give room for negative vibes, I place myself first in everything and I find and have peace doing so.
There are times I face difficulties, I just keep calm and take a deep breathe and it works perfectly fine for me. I worry less but rather keep calm and somehow, I pull through no matter what. I ignore things that might want to piss me off and just walk away cos reacting to everyone of them isn't good for me and it could make me do something stupid I will regret.
Lastly, and most importantly, I control myself and my emotions. I don't let my emotions becloud my sense of judgement or take a greater part of me. Nobody, no event or even circumstances can determine how I feel, I will not and will never allow that.
How do I achieve happiness?
It's very simple. My happiness is in my hands. I decide and chose to be happy no matter what or anything. I don't let people or circumstances determine when, where and how I should be happy. NO, I can't allow that. Happiness is a choice it isn't dependent on anyone at all. I think positively, I look at the bright side of life and forget about the What if's. I surround myself with positive people and people who make me happy with little things. If you're not what or who I want in my life, I have my way of trashing you out....yes I do that.
I set goals for myself and work towards achieving them. I keep myself in check and make the best out of every opportunity I get. I smile more often and live my life to the fullest. I take myself out and I love me wholeheartedly.
We should take life as it is and not allow what it throws at us make us sad or unhappy. May we find reasons to be in peace and stay happy no matter anything.
Thank you for reading, I appreciate it.
