Someone reached out to me today, requesting for something he had no business with. After giving him what he asked for, I asked what he needed it for, considering there were other ways he could have gone about it if he was really the one that needed it. Then, he told me that he wasn’t asking for himself. That it was for my colleague, who could have simply texted me or branched by my department, to get the information. So, this mutual friend was only helping him out.
After I was told that, I had no choice but to appreciate how far I’ve come because the former me, totally understood his action. I bore grudges towards people who never had a problem with me. Even in places where there was no bad blood, I read meaning into it, and made things harder for myself. So, this colleague had to resort to a third party because according to him, I thought myself as too smart, and didn’t want to associate myself with him as a colleague.
Mind you, for the past few weeks, everytime he acted out, I reached out to him, trying to make him understand that I never saw him as less. That I also considered him as smart, and that we were cool, just the way we were. But of course, he failed to see reason.
Now, in my opinion, this colleague of mine is smart but he surrounded himself by people I never wanted to be associated with. He surrounded himself with people that constantly made snide remarks, people who had a mentality I didn’t want to find myself adopting, and this was actually why I distanced myself from him. But I never thought that that would end up with him having to go through the stress of involving third parties before he could make a request from me.
That’s something I’m grateful for, in my minimalist journey. How I’ve embraced simpler things. With this journey, I’ve come to realize that so many things aren’t actually that deep. I no longer have to overthink situations, and make things harder for myself. I now go for that which I need, without testing out the branches. I no longer place myself in uncomfortable situations, and instead, now focus on the most important things - my goals. I’m really grateful for that aspect of my minimalist life because through it, I’ve been able to achieve a lot, without having to worry about too much.
Embracing minimalism as a lifestyle, has left me viewing the world differently. Here, I’m learning to live. I’m finally accepting that not everything deserves the amount of energy I invest into them. Some things require soft pauses, some require the enthusiasm they get, and some deserve next to no reaction. Why? Because they aren’t worth it actually. I’m glad I chose being at peace, over happiness. Rather than attract drama and chaos into my life, and claiming it’s as a result of my pursuit for happiness, I’ll rather be at peace. Happiness, as a feeling is fleeting and could be found in what you choose to find it in. Ever since I came to terms with this, I’ve found myself blooming.
There’s no disputing the fact that along the line, I became distracted and found myself diving head firat into drama. But I’m happy that I’ve always found my way back to the real thing. With minimalism, I’ve come to embrace the most important things and let go of things that never mattered. Through minimalism I’ve made decisions that left me free, happy, satisfied, and most of all, decisions that left me at peace. And for all these I’m grateful.
This weeks #KISS gave me an opportunity to ponder on my growth as a minimalist and I’m grateful for how far I’ve come, and I look forward to so much more I could achieve with minimalism.
Thanks for reading.
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