Over a week ago I talked about seasonal friendships and why we need to acknowledge and honour them. Now I want to talk about holding on to the memories of these friendships.
I did mention that I have a large number of seasonal friends, mostly from growing up, schooling, and different spaces I have been in at one point or the other. It's usually obvious to me when I newly become friends with someone in a new space if it's just going to be a seasonal friendship.
Two years ago I met someone at an internship and we got close. She always talked about how I would end my internship and go away. One day towards the end of my internship, she told me straight-up that I would go away and forget her. It was painful to hear because I had no such plans, I thought she was really cool and wanted to be in touch.
Well, I guess she must have dealt with seasonal friendships in the past and got hurt when friends left. She ruled out the possibility of remaining friends and 'accused' me beforehand of ending our friendship. I tried convincing her I wasn't going to do that like I was talking to a lover, but she didn't agree with me.
The tables turned because I reached out afterwards but got nothing much. Of course, I wasn't mad, I understand these things. She was being protective of her feelings and she ended up pushing me away instead. I still have memories of our time together and I doubt I'd forget them anytime soon.
This is the case with my other seasonal friendships, I'm often amazed at the memories I still have when I think about them sometimes. It isn't because I have a super-memory, I just happen to still be connected with these people on social media.
Seeing photos and videos of them regularly somehow keeps the memories of them fresh. I found out I remember the little details about these people more compared to those who I don't see their updates. I guess it's a mind thing but it's why I still keep my Facebook account.
Everyone is grown, moved on, living and exploring, and I always have a warm fuzzy feeling when I see my old peeps post about their lives. It brings back some of the memories I have of them and I really enjoy that.
These are good memories and I almost always don't remember bad memories if any. I think reminiscing is good for the mind and even if you're no longer close to people (good or bad terms), it's okay to think of the good times you had with them and smile about it.
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