Before you start a relationship

I see so many people looking for a love partner.
They think that the partner can make them happy.
So they rush into a relationship, and in the process, they lose themselves.

I did it too, in so many relationships.

Because I was afraid that he wouldn't like me as I am, I started to make little compromises.
Like little things. I started to wear clothes I knew he would like, but I didn't feel comfortable in it.
I started to listen to the music he liked even though I didn't like it so much.
I forced myself to be interested in sports he liked.
And so on.
Slowly, I forgot what I like, who I am
Slowly I lost myself.

But the truth is, more you lose yourself less loveable you are.

The irony isn't it.
I thought that If I make myself more likable to him, he will love me more.
But it doesn't work like that.
More I made myself likable to him, more I lose the essence of myself.
And without my true essence, I am not attractive anymore. I am not interesting anymore.

So what is the solution?
The obvious solution is to stay true to yourself, no matter what.
But I know it is not easy, especially if you don't know who you are.

So to all the single people, I would suggest finding out who you are before you rush into the next relationship.

I did that before I started a relationship with Matija. And it paid off very well. Because I know who I am before we start a relationship, I was able to communicate with him like: I am who I am. If you like me the way I am, then we can hang out, and have some fun. I also know that you are who you are, and I like what I see. So let's promise each other not to try to change each other because that will not work. Instead, let's hang out as long as we have fun together and a good time.
And that worked for us for the last ten years.
Just like that, we hung out for the last ten years.

And as you see, today we hang out around our picnic.
We love to have a picnic together.
That is something we love to do together.
No matter what is the weather.
We enjoy our life together because we know who we are as beings.

Ok, my dear lovelies, have a great day.
Live life by inspiration, and enjoy every bit of it.
See you next week, ciao