Let me start by telling you about my sister...
Precious Heritage is my sister's name. She is a beautiful 18-year-old teenager. She is a model and a UI/UX designer (badass designer, I must say ☺️)
My sister is the closest person to me, as I am to her. She could be very quiet, funny, or sarcastic, depending on the environment and the people present in that environment. She could pass for an ambivert, but she was a talkative and complete extrovert when she was younger. We don't know what changed.
On Monday night, Precious called me to complain about how her roommate has started giving her the silent treatment again. I'm usually the first person she calls whenever she's going through anything, be it worry, anger, sadness, happiness, 'broke-ness', e.t.c (Don't be deceived. We argue a lot too. It's not all rosy here)
About her roommate, it's not the first time she has made that complaint. You know the kind of people that wake up on the wrong side of the bed and they start acting all strange, expecting you to be sad because they are sad, transferring aggression and throwing tantrums. Yes! That's the kind of person my sister described her roommate to be.
But when Precious called me that Monday evening, she sounded extremely frustrated. Nonetheless, I advised her to calm down and explain what was going on, she explained how her roommate has been giving her weird attitude all day. She tried to ask her if everything was fine with her, but she was met with an unresponsive response.
Precious even begged her to explain a topic to her in her leisure time, but she responded by shouting at her.
Knowing the kind of person my sister is, unproblematic, and stress- free, she gets frustrated very easily too.
She left her room for her friend's room where she cooled down for a few hours before going back into her room.
My sister and I keep chatting on Whatsapp. We already have plans in place about how she would be transferring to my school after this present semester. She would just have to way till she finishes her examination later in February. I encouraged her to stay a few more days since she is starting her exams in a couple of days. We spoke about a lot of things, ranging from our parents to her roommate and other people, plans, and things before retiring to bed.
I woke up in the morning to a message from my sister telling me to check my WhatsApp.
Wait for it!
She woke up to a WhatsApp message from her roommate. She forwarded the messages to me.
Apparently, this girl picked up my sister's phone when she was asleep, went through her chats with me, because she was sure Precious was talking about her to me. (oh yeah! Her intuition was right! What do you expect, bitch?! I'm her big sis! She tells me every goddamn thing. Even the last boy she kissed. we that tight!)
After surfing through Precious' phone while Precious was asleep, she decided to send her a WhatsApp message that she would wake up to (Which is the message she forwarded to me).
I called my sister and advised her to challenge her roommate, ask her what right she had to go through your phone?
Please note that, though my sister is sharp witted, she is not a violent person. She avoids trouble at all costs.
She went back into the room to ask this girl why she checked her phone while she was sleeping and the response my sister received where she sat was the sting of her pink stiletto heel on her face, Precious' roommate started throwing things at her, moved and started hitting her. Precious managed to picked up her phone to text her friend, Yinka. Yinka rushed to her room, came to her aid in between the battering.
When Precious narrated the event to me, I firstly thought it was a joke. When it dawned on me that it was not, I felt very bad for her, because my sister is skinny and small in stature, meanwhile, her roommate is chubby and tall.
I told my mum and dad. My parents hates bullying so much. when Precious was bullied by a classmate in junior school, my mum went to school to beat up the boy. I have lost count of the number of times my dad will call law enforcement agencies to arrest people just for treating us or other people unfairly.
However, Precious begged my parents not to call the girl or take any action. Precious said and I quote, "She is my friend and I really like her. She also apologized because she felt bad for getting violent and I will like to give her another chance."
My parents were very pained. I was quite emotional (believe me, it takes a lot to make me emotional)
I blocked the roommate on my WhatsApp, and even though I forgive and move on easily, I feel resentment towards that girl. I even feel worse because my sister did not want us to react and we were forced to respect her decision.
This is why writing here seems to be the best option for me to offload my stress and making myself feel better. Writing makes me feel better, and most importantly, I am thankful for Hive.
I hope my sister gets better (She still has bruises from the injury her roommate inflicted on her)
PLEASE SAY NO TO BULLYING! And unlike Precious, DO NOT forgive your bully.