Suck it

Always be yourself... unless you suck.

- Joss Whedon -

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Have you ever met, or had dealings with, someone who sought to suck the energy out of you? I don't mean in pleasurable ways that leave you feeling pleasingly drained and sated, I mean emotionally and mentally drained of energy. I can't speak for everyone, however I'm pretty sure most have met someone like that in the course of their life, or will do so.

I know a few in real life offline, pathetic creatures that they are, and I distance myself from them. As we all know, the interwebs are chock-a-block full of people like this too. I think they find a certain feeling of safety and anonymity [such that it is] from behind their keyboard. They reach out and do whatever it is they do hoping to inflict suffering, pain, hurt or whatever it is they're trying to achieve upon others and in return receive...umm...err...hmmm...I don't know what really.

Here's the thing though, in their minds they usually feel they are reaping a bountiful harvest of whatever it is they think they gain from their actions. They sit back in self-satisfaction and think things like, I'm the man, or maybe, that'll hurt them, or just feel so powerful and in control that their chest puffs out with immesurable pride.

But in reality, they don't reap a bountiful harvest at all.

What they actually do is sink a little further downward into the stinky, fetid cesspit of their lives under the weight of yet another layer of hate-filled negativity that they pile upon themselves. Their nostrils fill with the stench of misery that comes from knowing they cannot escape themselves no matter how hard they try, and no matter how much they wish to be anything but who and what they are, their disgusting behaviours circle them back to that same old rank, putrid, noxious pathetic person they truly are.

But...they live with a strong sense of denial and, if they're expert at one thing, it's fooling themselves that their behaviours empower them, that they have relevance and that they gain from their actions.

I've dealt with many such people, from a very young age and, whilst the reasons for their behaviours and the way they engage them may change, the characters of those individuals are all the same; that is, poor, weak, feeble, sickly, puny and any number of other adjectives that all concatenate and define a person with very low self-esteem, morals, ethics and ownership of self and a strong sense of self-loathing. Ironic isn't it?

Here's the thing though...they truly are meaningless, I mean generally. Despite their feelings of self-empowerment, authority, relevance or power they mean so very little in the grand scheme of things and the only thing they have is whatever we choose to give them. If that is nothing, then they have nothing.

I've come across so many like this and I understand that their behaviours come mostly from a strong feeling of jealousy.

They seek to take something away from those they torment or attack as if that then improves their own position...but of course, it does not. When they're alone in the recess of their own little minds the reality comes crashing down...They are the same irrelevant little person they always were...and me? Well, my life goes on unimpeded and in the same spectacular fashion it always does, as does most who are attacked by these types of people.

The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.

- William Penn -

I don't feel sorry for these tormented souls; I don't feel much at all really. Hmm, just loathing at a person who cannot find the ownership, responsibility and discipline to be a better person because it's all within their grasp should they choose to assuage their desire to drag others down into the abyss they, themselves, descend into. It's a recoverable position, but they don't. Eventually get what they deserve, which is nothing.

Those of us who take that ownership and show responsibility receive commensurate to the effort and discipline we show and we get to say to those others...Suck it!

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Do you know such a person or have you dealt with someone like this before? Have you been at the receiving end of such treatment or, are you one such person who delivers this disgusting brand of behaviour to others? Feel free to comment below and tell me about it.