This is my very last Non-fitness post
Informed DecisionNG is about making hard decisions tailored to fitness from now on. At least till I have time to diversify. So it's goodbye to social commentary and music for now.
My family is very biblical in its beliefs.
For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
I've read that marriages between people who share the same faith have decently less risk of devours. Of course, statistics don't say anything about an individual's specific situation.
There could be so much tension in some of these marriages and length typically does not mean effectiveness. This by every metric is a Nialistic thought. Everyone knows that you build strength with time under tension, it's a sad reality but that's just how it is.
This is not to disregard those who are being destroyed under the weight of their relationships by abusive partners because lightweight, as well as optimal weight, is subjective. Some weights should not be carried by humans as the deadlift champion Eddy Hall has found.
I and my mother spoke for over an hour about my girlfriend, besides the type of person she is, we had long discussions about her beauty. There is a lot that my mother can not put into words, but could it be possible that my mother knows too well that beauty is inspiring
I listened to the Modern Wisdom podcast hosted by Chris Williamson. In episode 625 he invited well-seasoned dating coach Matthew Hussey where they discussed for about 2 hours on dating from the modern lens. One very clear thing is that modern dating is in trouble and this is partly due to hook-up culture, political ideologies, and fear of the opposite sex.
What we are getting hooked to
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This heading reads like something one of those super critical female Church General Overseers would write. But I can assure you, that as soon as I find a more befitting title, I'll edit the book/post. I'm not an expert on dating but I really want to play with my readers as we go through what hook-up culture is offering us from all the podcasts that have anything to do with psychology.
As a men's mental health advocate, I will do my best to hold the magnifying glass on men.
There is a misconception about the hook-up culture that exists among male cynics and advocates alike where in the proceeding thought is that it benefits men and hinders women. On the surface, this can be seen as true. The role of men in the sex/dating scene is to reproduce as effectively as possible, even though in theory the hook-up culture does not allow for reproduction. When you look a bit deeper you begin to see how this might not be the case.
For starters, the men who tend to "benefit" from hook-up culture are not the average guy. So even if there are benefits, it's not widespread. It's mostly skewed toward the unreasonably narcissistic.
The other thing is that the women who participate in the act of "hooking up" are looking for a long-term commitment. At least that is what the mating strategy for women suggests .
According to Matthew Hussey, he explains that women are looking for commitments and the regular complaint of women is that the men do not want to commit to the women.
Truth be told, I don't think if hook-up culture continues the way it's going we are going to have anyone to blame but ourselves. We are the ones making the way for its growth, and dating apps are paving the way.
Dating apps have grown so much that one of the most prolific of them all has decided to make a subscription for those who which to have easier access to just about anyone they want.
The downstream effects
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This all reminds me of Universe 25, but the problem is that it's not rats in a cage, it's human beings in the world. There are so many people who fight with the reality of this behavioural study but at the end..alas we are arriving at a place where people are being encouraged to participate in behaviours that reenact the behaviours of the rats in Universe 25.
The main takeaway is that population decline might be a reality that is encouraged by one side of the ideological spectrum with no room for any form of discourse on the matter.
What is going on in Japan's population is quite scary. The country is falling to the point that it may not be possible to repopulate. There is speculation that the same may happen to China and by the end of the century, Nigeria might be the most populated country (Dr Jordan Peterson's predictions).
Eventually, if this dating culture doesn't change then we are going to set into a world where we soon will require people as we do with commodities. I've heard rumours about how Germany doesn't allow married couples to travel together so that if the spouse wishes to start a new life with a new partner, it can be made easy (I don't really think this is true anyway).
The effect is that we are not going to have enough young people to fulfil the economic requirements that are necessary for the upkeep of different nations. The best way to understand this is that, if there are not enough cleaners in the world the world gets dirty regardless of how many rich people there are to pay for the service. This is the line of thought has been restated multiple times by Elon Musk.
What are the solutions?
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In the Modern Wisdom podcast episode I have been referencing, Matthew Hussey explained the sad reality that is hypergamy. Well, he didn't necessarily explain it but he showed its effects in the lives of women.
He explained that women who work so hard to be successful and can be with any partner they want would much rather be with a spouse that they estimate to be at their level or higher financially.
The sad part about all this is that it's a worldwide phenomenon. Women do not want to be with a man they feel they are taking care of. Not for the long term.
There was this new interview that explained just how much men are falling short of the expectations of the highly competitive women (or women as a whole) expectation.
Men fall into the trap of only wanting to be with a woman "they think" their friends will approve of. I can't speak much of this because I am constantly on the chess board playing the game. But I wish I had known sooner that my friends would be happier for me (regardless of what they say at first) when I'm with someone who genuinely cares about me.
The solution I want to give is easy but I am not sure how people define the solution. My solution is to date for love. Love the person in front of you and the love that they have for you. Date for that entity between the two of you.
Love has many definitions but my favourite is how much you can sacrifice for others. The fact is depending on how you define love, you'll act differently. The best way to show love is that you are thinking about the team you've formed.
Form a good team with those who are willing to go the extra mile for you and play the dating game according to the rules. Don't treat people instrumentally but with love and respect knowing we humans are all born equal.