Nameste Beautiful Indian community, is been a while since I stopped by but trust me am back for good.
Sometimes the woods have turn to ashes before we realized that they shouldn't burn down before we quench the fire
Most times we are already adults before we realize what should have done, then we start looking for a way to mend the situation.
I wish I could speak to my younger self.
It's quite unfortunate that I don't have the ability to change the hands of the clock and no one could as well, I have a lot of things I would have amended but I can only wish at this point.
During my early 20's I was this impatient human maybe because I thought I had the needed strength to do sometimes without wasting time so I never saw the reason to develop patience in my life and this ruined a whole lot of things for me, infact some good relationships I lost was as a result of impatient, I wanted everyone and everything to be done without wasting of time and I never believed that time has a way of fixing life and making things better.
If I have my younger self sitting right in my presence I will advise her to be patience in whatever she does, I will help her understand that patience and humility doesn't mean that someone is weak.
One factor that discouraged me then from patiently waiting for some things were my friends, they will always tell me that am too beautiful to keep waiting for a long time to get somethings done, and this made me think that being patience means that am weak,If possible I will tell my younger self never to have friends that will discourage her from doing the right thing.
I always looked at my friends and I want to be in the same page with them not minding the cost, I lost my worth and never appreciated who I was and what I can do at that time and it ruined somethings for me and made me unhappy.
I will advise my younger self to always focus on what her strength can achieve not on others and she should always appreciate and celebrate any little win of hers, take life gradually without looking or comparing herself with people around her or friends.
Lack of patience made me lose valuable and quality friends then I thought people who took life easily where cowards but later I realized that I have lost good friends.
I will advise my younger self to appreciate good friends, accept them for whom they are, get to understand why they do things slowly and if possible learn beautiful life lessons from them.
Even though friends misunderstand each other, I will advise her to focus on the value those friends have and avoid quickly judging them and ruling them out without giving them benefits of doubt.
I wish is possible, my younger self has a whole lot to learn from me the older version because as we grow old we grow past so many things and this includes changing our past lifestyle.
Honestly I will scold my younger self if I have the opportunity because looking back I had the opportunity to do so many things better but I choose to do all I did because I didn't want my friends to call me a coward, now my friends are no longer with me am left alone with the consequences of my choice.
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